Abantu bose byibuze rimwe mubuzima bwe bwimazeyo ishyari. Abantu bamwe bamenyekana byoroshye naya marangamutima, abandi, ni uguhemuke imbere, ariko ntabwo biteguye kwatura. Kuva mu bwana, buri mubyeyi ashyira umwana we kugirira ishyari abandi nabi. Mubisobanuro, bagereranya iyi myumvire yinyo izicara mu gituza no muri Erod roho. Ariko, ibisobanuro byababyeyi bibagiwe imyaka. Kandi kumva ishyari rimwe na rimwe birenga mugihe kidakwiye. Kuraho ishyari ryumweru n'umukara. Icyo batandukaniye hagati yabo nuburyo bagaragaza, biga mu ngingo.
Niki?
Mubikorwa byinshi byubuvanganzo, urashobora guhura nibigaragaza nabi byo kumva ishyari. Kurugero, urubura rwera na mama wawe, inkovu na Mufas (inyuguti ya cartoon "Umwami intare"). Ndetse no muri Bibiliya, kumva ishyari hagati ya Kayini na bavandimwe ba Avele. Mubyukuri, ishyari ni ibintu bitoroshye. No gusobanukirwa ishingiro ryayo, ugomba gusuzuma icyo ukumva bigizwe na:
- guhangana;
- ubugome;
- Urwango;
- kutanyurwa;
- kugereranya.
Iki nigice cyamarangamutima cyamarangamutima kigaragara nkicyingenzi. Ariko ikintu gishimishije nuko iyi myumvire mubuzima busanzwe iboneka munsi ya masike zitandukanye.
Umva ibyiyumvo byerekana ishyari bivuze ko umuntu ukomeye ushaka kugira ikintu undi afite . Kurugero, umugore ashaka ikoti ryubwoya. Ariko ibibazo byubuzima bimuhatira kwambara ikoti risanzwe cyangwa ikoti rya artificiel. N'umukunzi we afata ikote ryubwoya. Kubera iyo mpamvu, umugore afite uburakari, kubera ko yashakaga cyane kuzuza imyenda ye nk'ibya cumi byo hejuru, ariko ntiyabigeraho. Isohozwa ry'ibyifuzo byawe n'abandi ni ibyiyumvo bidashoboka. Kandi nkibyiciro birinda ikiranga, umuntu ufite intego atangira kwihorera uwo bintu byose bigenda. Mu karorero k'umugore ufite ikote ry'ubwoya, ntiwanyuzwe n'ubuzima bwa Madamu batangira gukubita amazimupfundoye ku mukunzi we, kubwira Noby. Ariko mubyukuri, ingero nkizo ziboneka mubuzima bwa buri munsi kuri buri ntambwe.
Abashakashatsi bagaragaje ko Abantu bafite imyaka 18 kugeza 30 barashobora kwibasirwa no kumva ishyari. Ni gake cyane kugirirane ishyari abandi bantu basaza hamwe nabana. Mw'isi ya none, ishyari ryiza rigabanijwemo ubwoko bwera n'umwijima. Byemezwa ko ishyari ryera ridateye ubwoba. Ariko, mubyukuri, nigicucu cyera ni amarangamutima mabi. Birumvikana ko, byoroshye, birimo amarangamutima atari marangamutima, ndetse akanagira uruhare rudasanzwe rwo gusunika, gushishikariza imbere.
Gahunda y'amarangamutima y'ishyari ryera: yarashimye, ahitamo, akoranya n'ingabo, abona icyifuzo. Kuvuga nabi, Ishyari ryera nimbaraga ziyobora umuntu kugirango agere ku ntsinzi. Ishyari ry'umukara ni bibi cyane kuruta umweru. Atera amarangamutima mabi ashishikaye, amwiyemerera uburakari n'ubupfura. Rimwe na rimwe, no gusaba gusenya umuntu ugirira ishyari. Kubera iyo mpamvu, amayeri, uburiganya, kandi rimwe na rimwe ndetse no kwiyumamariza buri gihe bimanikwa hafi yishyari ryirabura. Ishyari ryera rishobora kubaho neza kandi utabishaka, kandi umukara afite nkana. Birashobora kugeragezwa kubakire, beza, bafite impano, batsinze kandi bafite ubuzima bwiza. Mubyukuri, umuntu arashobora kumva afite ishyari gusa kubyo adafite. Mubyukuri, ubu ni igitero gikomeye kitera ibitekerezo bidashimishije muri douche.
Umuntu ugirira ishyari afatwa nkimwe mubyari bibi cyane, nkuko bishoboka nibikorwa byose.
NIKI?
Niba umuntu afite ishyari ry'umukara mu bugingo bwe, Aura yoherejwe n'uburakari kandi bubi, burakaye n'inzangano n'inzangano n'inzangano n'inzangano. Umuntu nkuwo ntashobora kugirira nabi nyir'ibyiza. Ishyari ry'umukara rirashobora gusunika umuntu kubikorwa bibi. Kurugero, guta imashini irangi cyangwa wandike umubyimba kumukozi wazamuye. Umuntu wabonye ishyari ryera ntabwo ava mumarangamutima mabi muri douche. Ntashaka kugirira nabi umuntu wagezeho gutsinda. Ibyishimo byera bigufasha kunonosora, wizere ubwawe n'imbaraga zawe, bityo ugere ku burebure.
Benshi bazi icyo ishyari ryera ryumukara zitandukanye, ariko ntibashobora gutsinda amagambo. Itandukaniro nyamukuru hagati yibi byiyumvo ni uko Ishyari ryera ni ugutera imbaraga kandi bigashishikarira, kandi umukara ni umujinya n'inzangano. Ni ishyari ry'umukara ryica imiterere yumuntu. Bibaho ko umuntu bigoye cyane guhangana numva afite ishyari. Icyemezo cyonyine nugufasha muri psychologue yujuje ibyangombwa.
Impamvu Zibitera Biboneka
Impamvu zitera kumva ishyari rya buri muntu ziratandukanye. Byose biterwa numuntu ku giti cye. Icyakora, nk'uko byatangajwe na psychologue, Isuzuma nyamukuru, urukundo rwo kwirata, icyifuzo cyo kugira inyungu nziza, mubwana bugoye, uburezi budakwiye nintege nke zumwuka . Gukunda imbaraga birashobora guterwa kurutonde rumwe. Nubwo impamvu zitandukanye zishyanga, bahuzwa nibintu byingenzi, aribyo icyifuzo cyo kugira ko hari undi muntu.
Ku bijyanye n'ishyari ryera kandi ry'umukara hari inkuru nyinshi zitandukanye, inkuru nto, imigani n'imigani. Kurugero, umunsi umwe umuhinde ushaje yabwiye umwuzukuru we ko mubugingo bwa buri muntu haba buri gihe baharanira inyungu hagati yimpyisi zombi. Inyamaswa ya mbere ni umujinya, urwango n'ishyari. Iya kabiri ikoreramo ibyiza, amahoro, urukundo n'ibyishimo. Umuhinde muto wumvise iyi nkuru witonze, yabajije sekuru, ni ubuhe bwoko bw'impyisi yasubije, umuhinde ushaje yasubije ko yatsinzwe na Uwo.
Abahanga mu bya psychologue benshi bizeye ko kumva ishyari ari ibintu byanduye. Niba amarangamutima nkaya yagaragaye mumutwe mubantu 1, rwose azakubita umuturanyi. Urugero, umugabo igihe kirekire yagiriye ishyari abo mukorana babigize umwuga, kubera ibyatangiye kuganira n'itsinda ryose ry'uyu mukozi, yatangiye kumubwira mu gihe cyo gutanga, ndetse akusanya amazimwe ndetse no gusimbuza mugenzi we munsi ya punch mbere Imfashanyigisho. Kuba umaze kumva aya makuru, byanze bikunze abakozi 1 kuri 10 bazagwa kuruhande rwibyamamare, kandi intambara yo kurwanya umuntu watsinze azubakwa afite imbaraga ebyiri.
Abahanga mu byifuzo byimitekerereze byishyura abantu bafite icyubahiro gito kubera ubusambanyi nubukene. Bagirane ishyari ryakarengane, biragoye cyane gutsinda. Biragoye rwose kwikuramo ishyari abantu bibwira ko abatsinzwe kandi buzuye ibintu bidafite ishingiro. Bahora bahabwa kubura ibyiza mubuzima. Muri icyo gihe, ndetse n'intsinzi nto, bo ubwabo babona ko batsinzwe.
Ntiwibagirwe ibyo Ubwe ishyari, yibagirwa ishyari, kwiyongera kubintu bivuye ku mibabaro hamwe na liquefies ye . Bikunze kubaho ko udashobora kwitahiza amarangamutima mabi kumuntu watsinze. Noneho ugomba kubika ubugome bwapimwe muri wewe. Amarangamutima mabi ahoraho atera indwara nyinshi - ntabwo ari uwumwuka gusa, ahubwo nanone umubiri.
Byongeye kandi, ishyari ry'igitero cy'ubugizi bwa nabi bushobora guteza ikibazo gishobora kubabazwa n'inzirakarengane. Ikintu gishimishije cyane nuko Umuntu wese muribo arashobora kuba uwo bahanganye cyane, noneho ishyari rigomba gukomera.
Ndetse ishyari risanzwe ni ryiza hamwe n'ishyari. Ibyo byiyumvo byombi bisaba gutunga ikintu. Kandi niho habaye amarangamutima, umutimanama, impuhwe n'umurava ntibihari.
Impanuro zingirakamaro
Kubwamahirwe, ntabwo buri gihe bishoboka kugirango ahangane nawe. Niyo mpamvu ishyari rije mu buryo butunguranye kandi rishobora guhekenya umuntu kuva kera. Kugira ngo ibyo bitabaho, birakenewe kumenya impamvu nyamukuru yo kubaho ishyari no gukorana na psychologue. Nibyiza kwiyambaza ibintu byiza, ibiryo biryoshye, ingendo zishimishije ibintu bishimishije, kuva mu gihugu, gusura ibihugu bya kure. Kurandura burundu kumva ishyari, ugomba guhora wikorera wenyine. Nta rubanza rudashobora kwigereranya nabandi bantu. Yakuwe mu shyari, ubuzima bwumuntu burahinduka rwose. Afite ibyo ashyira imbere, inyungu, abo tuziranye. Amarangamutima arimo guhinduka neza, kandi ikibazo "Kubera iki atari njye?" ijya inyuma.
Umuntu aragoye cyane kwigenga, ariko hamwe nuburyo bwiza ushobora guhindura iyi myumvire muburyo bwiza. Kurugero, abagore bifuza kugabanya ibiro birahagije kugirango barebe imibiri myiza yabahagarariye imibonano mpuzabitsina neza muri siporo. Abifuza gukira bagomba gukora cyane no gushaka intego zabo. Imwe mu nama z'ingenzi za psychologiste, zikakwemerera guhangana n'ibyishimo - kugirango wongere icyubahiro cyawe.
Niba umuntu atunguranye afite ishyari, akeneye kubatabara mu mutwe, murakoze kuri byose kandi ntakintu na kimwe yitondera ibikorwa byabo.
