Buri muco uzwiho iminsi mikuru yayo, utandukanye nibidasanzwe, ariko hafi ya buri wese afite ubukwe. Muri buri muntu hari imigenzo yabo bwite, nkuko bamaze igihe kinini, mugihe ishyanga ryabo ubwe. Uyu munsi, hari ibintu byinshi bitandukanye mubiruhuko. Ingingo yacu irareba umuhango wo guhura nabato hamwe no kuri ubukwe nicyo bavuga.
Umuco
Nta bukwe budakora udafashe. Icyitonderwa kidasanzwe gikwiye. Uyu munsi mubukwe hagomba kubaho cake nziza kandi nini, ariko ibiryo byiza byakorewe mbere yubunini nimiterere. Kuva igihe kirekire, ishyingiranwa ryakozwe ryo kuvura ibikomeye kandi ryiza nyakake. Bikunze kubambwa hamwe nuburyo bwiza busa n'amatako ashingiye ku moko. Bikwiye kwishyurwa ko ibintu byose bigize icyitegererezo bifite agaciro runaka:
- Kureka no kuboha ni ukugereranya ishyirahamwe ryipimiro ebyiri, kimwe no gukomeza aya marushanwa mumuryango umwe kandi ukomeye;
- Amaroza n'imbuto za viburnum bishushanya urukundo, kubaha n'ubushyuhe;
- Imyanda ku guteka ni ikimenyetso cy'ubukwe ubwabyo, ibyo byakiriye mugenzi wawe mu rukundo;
- Imizabibu y'inzabibu ni ikimenyetso cy'uburumbuke, bityo birashobora no kuboneka ku mugati w'ubukwe - werekana icyifuzo cy'abana bato bafite ubuzima bwiza.
Capaway ni umugati wera uzengurutse, mubisanzwe uteye ubwoba. Imiterere yuzuye igereranya izuba. Kubwibyo, bemerwa ko umugati ushushanya imiterere yumuryango mushya, gutera imbere, ubuzima bwiza nuburumbuke. Mubisanzwe, biramenyerewe gutangiza ibirori mubukwe, mugihe akenshi bibarira umunyu, ugereranya gutera imbere.
Ababyeyi mu nama y'abakiri bato bajyanwa no kuri nyabye, babifuriza umuryango ukomeye. Nyuma yigice cyemewe cyubukwe, abashyingiranywe bagomba kuruma cyangwa kumena agace ko guhana. Ninde muri abashyingiranywe uzaba igice kinini, azaba umutware wumuryango mushya. Nyuma yibyo, urashobora kwita ku nshuti n'abashyitsi baje mu birori. Niba ubishaka, urashobora gufata abashyingiranywe murugo. Rimwe na rimwe, abantu barabica mu mutwe.
Hariho indi migenzo ijyanye na karabin. Ku bwe, umugeni n'umukwe bagomba gusenya igihano, hanyuma nahise afatana no gufatana. Umuhango nkuyu ushushanya ko abashyingiranywe bagomba kubaho mumahoro no mubwumvikane, none batanga amahirwe yanyuma yo "kuvoma". Gusiga uyu muhango wo kwibuka, umunyu usigaye ugomba gushyirwamo umufuka wimyenda, bizahinduka souvenir nziza.
Mbere na mbere, ukurikije umugati wubukwe ugomba gutekwa numuryango wumukwe. Mubisanzwe iyi nzira yingenzi yo guteka yizeye umuvandimwe, wishimiye kuba mubukwe kandi afite abana. Niba umukwe wa Mama yahuje ibyo bisabwa, hanyuma ategura umugati. Birabujijwe rwose gutegura umupfakazi wumupfakazi, abakobwa n'abakobwa batarashyingiranywe cyangwa bata umwana. Dukurikije imyizerere, umugore utishimye ashobora kwerekana ikibazo cye kuri abashyingiranywe mugihe cyo guteka ubukwe bwa Karabia.
Ikoranabuhanga ryo guteka ntabwo rigoye cyane, ariko ukurikije imigenzo, bisaba uburyo budasanzwe. Rero, umugore yagombaga kuririmba indirimbo mbi mugihe cyo guteka urukundo rufite isuku kandi rudahemuka. Umugati wagiye mu kiti, atangira gusoma amasengesho.
Birashimishije nuko abagabo bo mumuryango wumukwe bashoboraga kwitabira gutegura iki kimenyetso cyubukwe. Niba umugabo yabayeho mubukwe bwiza imyaka myinshi, afite abana beza, babona amahirwe nyuma yo guteka ikizamini kugirango bashyireho ubuvumo mu ziko. Nyuma yibyo, uruhare rwe arangira, umugore arushijeho guteka imigati.
Mugihe cyabarusiya bishaje, umutsima nicyo gicuruzwa nyamukuru. Yari afitanye isano n'imibereho myiza y'umuryango. Kubera iyo mpamvu, ibirori iminsi mikuru ntibishobora gufungura nta guhana. Mubisanzwe byateguwe mbere, muminsi mike. Ifu yari ifumbire ku ifu y'ingano, no gushushanya uyu mugati, stucco zitandukanye zakozwe mu ifu y'umutako, nka spikelets cyangwa ibibyimba. No hejuru y'ibihano, mubisanzwe bashimiraga inuma, bashushanya urukundo rw'iteka.
Nigute ushobora guhura?
Dukurikije imigenzo yabapashyi nyuma yicyiciro cyemewe cyubukwe, birakenewe guhura nukwanga, kandi bigomba kuba mumaboko yababyeyi. Ubusanzwe, umukwe we waragumishijwe, mu gihe umugati wari ku munara wihariye, wari ushushanyijeho ubudodo bw'intoki. Byemewe ko umugeni yishora mu budodo bw'amatapi yubukwe mugihe cyo kwitegura kwizihiza, mugihe afite amahirwe yo guhitamo icyitegererezo. Kenshi na kenshi, ibi bikoresho byari bishushanyijeho inuma cyangwa imizi, nkibimenyetso byo kuvuka k'umuryango mushya.
Mu ikubitiro, ababyeyi bahuye n'abashyingiranywe no muri iyo miturire y'ababyeyi b'ababyeyi, kuko bemeye kubaho no kubaka umuryango. Indi mpamvu yo guhitamo aha hantu haterane ni uko umuryango w'urukwe wari ufite inshingano zo gutegura guhana ubukwe. Birumvikana ko ubukwe bugezweho, birumvikana, bitandukanye nibyambere, kandi imigenzo imwe nimwe yamaze kwibagirwa cyangwa yasanze amoko yabo muburyo bushya. Uyu munsi, umukwe hamwe n'umugeni nyuma yo kwiyandikisha uruhushya rwoherezwa mu birori, akenshi batangira kubaho batandukanye n'ababyeyi babo. Kubwibyo, akenshi urubyiruko ruhura nubwato kumaboko yabo ku bwinjiriro muri resitora cyangwa cafe.
Ntiwibagirwe umushyitsi, kuko nabo bari abitabiriye iyi gakondo. Ni abashyitsi bategura koridor "izima". Iyo urubyiruko runyuze iruhande rwe, noneho abashyitsi barababangamiye ibiceri, oati, umuceri, umuceri, amababi yindabyo cyangwa bombo. Rero, inshuti n tuzira kwifuza ubutunzi nibyishimo byumuryango mushya.
Bikwiye kwitabwaho bidasanzwe ku magambo ya nyirabukwe. Imvugo yacyo igomba gukomera, rero iragikurikirana mbere kugirango itayobewe mugihe nyamukuru. Imyiteguro ibanza izemerera gutanga ibintu byingenzi, kandi izagenda mu bugingo. Birumvikana ko ari byiza kuvuga inyandiko nta nama, ariko nibiba ngombwa, urashobora kuvuga no gusoma. Iyo nyirabukwe yirukana abashyingiranywe mu ntoki, ubujurire bwe bugomba kwerekeza cyane cyane ku muhungu we, kuko ari ngombwa kuri we. Mu ntangiriro, bigomba kwerekana umunezero we wo guhitamo Umwana, kandi wifuza kandi inyungu zose z'umuryango we mushya.
Nubwo umugozi ufite nyirabukwe, ariko ntukibagirwe kuri Mama w'umugeni, kuko nawo ugira uruhare muri iyi gakondo. Igomba kubika ibirahuri bibiri byuzuyemo ibinyobwa byoroshye cyangwa champagne mumaboko ye. Iyo umusore mugihe cyo guhana igihano, agomba kunywa kubirahure hepfo hanyuma akabakubita, mugihe batera ibirahuri unyuze ku rutugu rwibumoso. Ibi bizasobanura ko umunezero uza mumuryango wabo.
Igihe nyirabukwe yatangwaga umugeni n'umugeni ngo arye mu bihure, agomba no kuvuga umunezero wabo, ashimira abana aho ashyiraho umuryango mushya kandi abifuriza ibyiza. Ba se w'abashyingiranywe nabo bagize uruhare muriyi gakondo. Mubisanzwe, se w'umukwe afata umurongo mu ntoki, aho pome iri. Nyuma ya Champagne, "abanyabyaha" ibirori birashobora guhita barya. Se w'umugeni mu ntoki afashe igishushanyo, kubera ko ariho ubufasha bwayo aha umugisha ishyingiranwa.
Navuga iki?
Kenshi na kenshi, ubukwe buratumirwa kuri Tamada, ukorera iyambere. Hariho Tamada atumirwa mubukwe, niwe wagize icyo avuga ku bikorwa byose hamwe n'umuhango wa Karabaya, mu gihe utanga ijambo kuri buri wese mu bitabiriye iki gikorwa. Umwuga azi neza ubucuruzi bwe, uburyo bwo kwitwara nicyo bwo kuganira mumateraniro abashyingiranywe. Nyuma y'ingoro yubukwe, umugeni ukomoka mu mugeni asanzwe yoherezwa mu foto, yongeyeho, bene wabo ba hafi barashobora kujyana nabo, kandi abandi bashyitsi bose bagiye gutegereza ko abanyabyaha bo mu cyumba cy'ibirori mu cyumba cy'ibirori. Ni Tamada ugomba kwemeza ko abitabiriye amahugurwa bose muri iyo mpamvu bakubiye mu mwanya wabo, kandi anaha buri jambo, kuyobora iterambere ry'iki gikorwa.
Icy'ingenzi! Ijambo rya nyina wurukwe ntirigomba kuba rirerire. Birahagije gutegura interuro nkeya gusa. Bimaze inyuma yubukwe, ababyeyi bazashobora kuvuga byuzuye.
Ababyeyi b'Ubukwe ahanini barashimira abana babo, kandi bavuga kandi amagambo y'ibiciro. Bagomba kuvuga babikuye ku mutima, ntabwo ari ngombwa gukoresha inyandiko yize gusa, ugomba kugeza amarangamutima yawe. Imvugo y'ababyeyi irashobora guterwa muburyo bw'imivugo cyangwa muri prose, guhitamo bisigaye kubabyeyi babo.
Inama
Kugira ngo umunsi w'ubukwe wanyuze ukurikije inyandiko kandi nta "utangaje", hagomba kwishyurwa mu myiteguro yayo. Niba dusuzumye umuco winama yabashyingiranywe nuburiganya bwubukwe, ugomba kwitondera ayo manama:
- Ntabwo ababyeyi bose bashobora kuba bahari mubukwe kubwimpamvu imwe cyangwa izindi, Uruhare rwa nyirabukwe muriyi gakondo rushobora gukora umuvandimwe, ahubwo ni inshuti magara;
- Ntibishoboka gusimbuza umutsima wa keke yubukwe, nubwo mbere yumugati wirerekana ibiryo byiza muriyi minsi mikuru;
- Ijambo rya nyina ryumukwe rihuye nubwato nyabwo, rishobora gutangwa muburyo butandukanye, ikintu cyingenzi kigomba kuvuga amagambo avuye ku mutima kandi ashyushye.
Nuburyo bwo guhura nabakiri bato bafite ubukwe mubukwe, reba videwo ikurikira.