Nta n'umwe muri twe ari mwiza. Ibibazo byawe bwite bya psycho-amarangamutima nibintu bibi bifite buri kimwe. Ntabwo bidasanzwe ni abantu babaye ababyeyi. Amakosa yimyitwarire hamwe numwana akenshi biganisha ku kuba mubwubari bwabana cyangwa umwangavu, kumva ko ari inzika kuri se cyangwa nyina, akenshi ahindukirira urwango, akigenda. Kandi ibi byuzuyeho ibintu bikomeye nibindi bidasanzwe byamarangamutima ukuze. Ugomba kubimenya, kubera ibyo mumyaka imwe bishobora kwanga se, nuburyo bwo guhangana nayo.
Impamvu nyamukuru
Mu tsinda rya hafi, nkumuryango, biragoye cyane guhisha amakosa yawe, komeza ibintu bibi. Ibyo ari byo byose, Imikoranire hagati yabantu ba hafi yogosha ibibazo bimwe na bimwe bya kamere na kamere ya buri. Ibintu birakabije kandi bikabije niba umuntu afite ibibazo bikomeye muri psycho-marangamutima, ubusinzi, imyumvire ikabije, inyota yo kuringaniza, nibindi. Ibibi n'intege nke bizagaragarira mumyitwarire, bidashobora kugira ingaruka kubandi bagize umuryango.
Igice kinini cya siyansi - Imitekerereze yumuryango yitangiye kwiga no gukosora ihohoterwa nibibazo mubucuti hagati yabavandimwe begereye. Vuba aha, abahanga mu bya psychologue barushagaho gusenya ibyifuzo by'abahungu n'abakobwa basanzwe bakuze ndetse banga se.
Hafi burigihe ishingiro ryimibanire mibi ntabwo ryashyizwe mubihe bikuze biriho, ariko mubana, ingimbi cyangwa ingimbi hakiri kare.
Akenshi hariho impamvu zimwe zitera izuba kandi rishinze imizi kuri papa.
- Uburyo bukabije bwo kureremba. Umwana ahora ayobowe, ntashobora kwerekana kugiti cye, yajanjaguwe namategeko menshi nibisabwa guturuka kuri bamwe cyangwa ababyeyi bombi.
- Inzoga zinywa inzoga, kubera iyo mpamvu, imyitwarire y'amayo ya Data mu muryango ndetse no hanze yacyo. Mu bihe nk'ibi, umwana akunze guhura na Papa. Aba nyuma bakunze gutanga ibihangange kandi bigora gusabana kubana nabana.
- Ashyushye , amakimbirane akunze guhuriza hamwe nimyitwarire ikaze yababyeyi gukandamiza psyche yumwana.
- Ibihano byumubiri , ihohoterwa rikorerwa umwana rikunze kuboneka muri iki gihe mu miryango itera imbere kandi ikamurikirwa. Ariko ibyo kwigaragaza "urukundo" rusiga ibintu bitari bisobanutse kuri psyche y'abana, baciwe neza murwibutso. Iki nikimwe mubibazo bikaze kandi byiyongera muri psychologiya yumuryango.
- Papa wita ku muryango ku mwana Ninde wamwambuyeho buri gihe nacyo gikomeye. Ndetse no kubungabunga itumanaho n'igihe ntarengwa, abana batawe baretse ntibashobora kubabakira kuri bo no kuri nyina.
- Bibaho ko umuntu yitwara hamwe nabana be yitonze Ariko hamwe nabandi bagize umuryango bazakana ndetse nubugome. Kureba udusimba, Rugan, gukubitwa, umwana ntahabwa ibitekerezo byiza, nubwo amakimbirane ye adashobora gukoraho. Akenshi, urwango rukomeye kuri papa kubera ko agasuzuguro ka ba nyina harimo n'abahungu buzuye.
- Impamvu y'icyaha kinini ishobora kuba ishyari ry'abana kuri bavandimwe. Ibi bikunze kugaragara mumiryango minini. Kubwamahirwe, ababyeyi bamwe birengagiza kumugaragaro numuntu kubana, bahora bamushyira mu matungo, Balusa no gufata ibya nyuma ndetse no mu muryango, no kubatazi. Usibye urwango no gutukwa, ibikomere by'abana byugarijwe no gushiraho kwisuzuma cyane, bitera gutondekanya ibintu byose byubuzima.
Birashoboka gushiraho umubano?
Rimwe mu mategeko ya psychologiste n'abakinnyi ba psychotherapiste bumvikana ku buryo bukurikira: Gusobanukirwa no kumenya ikibazo nintambwe ya mbere kandi y'ingenzi igamije gufata icyemezo. Kubijyanye namarangamutima mabi ugereranije na Data, iri tegeko naryo rikwiye rwose. Urwango nubugome mubyukuri, mbere ya byose, "kurya" ababahura nabo. Umuntu wese azibuka uburyo unaniwe kandi unaniwe urumva nyuma yuburakari bukomeye. Niba kandi iyi myumvire ihari imyaka myinshi, ibikorwa byayo birashobora kugereranywa numwenda ukuramo umuntu.
Ikibazo nuko benshi, binyuranye numunaniro wamarangamutima hamwe nubwenge bwabo, abifashijwemo biracyashaka gukomeza urwango. Umuntu yizeraga ko azarukanye vuba umubyeyi, umuntu yemera ko kubabarirwa bivuye ku mutima munsi y'icyubahiro cyayo.
Kubwibyo, ni ngombwa cyane kwikumva no kumva ibitwara mubyukuri ibi bibi, haba aha izo mbuto n'ibisubizo ko uyitezeho.
Inama za psychologue
Iyo uza kukubabarira bivuye ku mutima kugirango ubabarire, urashobora gukora intambwe zikurikira zigamije gukuraho urwango rwa so.
- Gerageza kwemera ko ibyahise bitagihinduka. Nubwo papa wawe ashaka gukosora ikintu, igihe ntigishobora guhinduka. Kandi wowe na so ubu ubu turi abantu batandukanye cyane, kandi imyaka yashize na Peryipeti nubuhanga bwabo bigomba gusigara inyuma.
- Ahari, hamwe nuburyo bwa nyuma, bwasaga naho bukabije. Gerageza kuzenguruka ibyabaye mumutwe wawe, bikavanwa cyane muburyo bwo kwibuka, ukareba nkumuntu mukuru. Birashobora cyane ko intego n'impamvu zimwe n'impamvu za papa bizakumvikana cyane.
- Ntukabyange. Emera ubikuye ku mutima gusabana na kavukire. N'ubundi kandi, icyifuzo cyo kubabarirwa nacyo kigomba gufatwa.
- Akenshi ubutabazi buzana ikiganiro kivuye ku mutima nabababaye. Gusa ibi ntibigomba gufata imiterere yumushinga hamwe namagambo y'ibisabwa n'ibirego. Wibuke ko intego yawe nukumva, kubabarira no kurekura, kandi ntukibabaza mukwihorera.
- Hindura ejo hazaza kandi utekereze bike kubyahise. Ubunararibonye bwacu ni ngombwa kandi bufite akamaro niba ubitekereje neza. Ababyeyi twatweretse amakosa yabo.
Ariko ugomba kubifata nkisomo ryubuzima. Urakoze ibi urashobora kwirinda imyitwarire mibi mumuryango wawe.
