Psychologiya ni ikintu kitoroshye kandi kigoye, ariko icyarimwe siyanse ishimishije, aho abahanga bashakisha umubare munini wibintu, bifitanye isano itaziguye numuntu. Kimwe muri ibyo bintu ni ukumva wicira urubanza. Uyu munsi mubikoresho byacu bishya tuzagerageza kumenya kumva icyaha, kimwe no gusesengura inzira nuburyo bushoboka kugirango tuyihanganye.
Niki muri psychologiya?
Mbere ya byose, birakenewe kumenya ko kwicira urubanza. Nk'uko bimeze bityo, nk'uko babivuze, iyi yicuza ibikorwa byiza (ibi birashobora kuba igikorwa kandi kidashoboka), kikavuka bitewe nuko iki gikorwa cyateje ingaruka mbi (ku muntu uyikikije ). Ibyiyumvo byarangwa nisuku yimyumvire, byibuze rimwe mubuzima bwe byabayeho buri muntu (usibye abo bantu bafite ubudahangarwa bwo mumutwe cyangwa mumitekerereze cyangwa imitekerereze).
Kumva ufite icyaha, umuntu arashaka kandi ashaka gukosora ibintu. Akenshi biri kuri iki cyiciro ko ibyiyumvo bishira, kandi umuntu ugaruka mubuzima bwacyo busanzwe.
Niba ibi bitabaye kandi divayi ikomeje kubabaza umuntu, noneho leta nkiyi ni patologiya. Muri uru rubanza, birasabwa kwiyambaza inzobere kugirango mfashe.
Ibitera
Gushiraho kumva icyaha birashobora kubaho kubwimpamvu zitandukanye. Mubisanzwe biragoye kumenya isano iri hagati yibyabaye (kurugero, ikosa ryashize) nikintu cyateye imitekerereze. Rimwe na rimwe, hariho ibibazo nkibi mugihe umuntu atangiye kumva akicira urubanza nyuma ya komisiyo runaka, kandi nyuma yimyaka - mubihe nkibi bigoye cyane kumva aho leta isenya ifatwa. Byongeye kandi, abantu bamwe bashobora kuba bafite icyaha cyatanzwe kandi gihoraho muri byose (akenshi icyateye iyi ni manipuation ya psychologiya yabandi). Reba byinshi mu mpamvu zikunze gutera kwicira urubanza.Gufunga Abantu
Kenshi na kenshi, kumva icyaha kivuka mu mibanire y'abakunzi (ababyeyi n'abana, mama n'umwana, abagore n'umugabo, nibindi). Byongeye kandi, imiterere mibi yo mumitekerereze irashobora kuba ishyira mu gaciro (urugero, kumva icyaha cyababyeyi bibabyeyi guha umugore wagiye kumwana we), kandi yashakaga kuvuga cyane. Imyitwarire nkiyi iraranga y'abana).
Abana benshi bafite kwicira urubanza mugihe mugihe cyo kwiga intama menyesha sisitemu yitwa ibihembo nibihano Mugihe cyo gutanga imyitwarire idahwitse, kandi kubwimyitwarire myiza - guhimbaza no guhemba (urugero, kugura ibiryo cyangwa ibikinisho).
Sosiyete
Urashobora gushishikariza no gushyira umutima mubi udashobora ahantu heza hafi gusa, ahubwo nanone societe muri rusange. Rero, hashobora kubaho icyaha ku muntu wavuze ngo "Oya" mugenzi we ku kazi, umukozi wasohotse nyuma y'ibitaro, aho yabuze amateraniro menshi y'ingenzi, nibindi. Akenshi ibi biterwa nuko umuntu (nkumugamambere) yumva imyenda ninshingano, bityo, birahura n'amarangamutima mabi mugihe utujuje ibyifuzo byabandi.Kwigaragaza
Igorofa muburyo bwo kwigaragaza nuburyo bugoye bwimitekerereze mibi kandi birashobora kuganisha ku ngaruka zitandukanye. Ikintu nuko Mubihe tugomba kwinshinja abandi bantu, dushobora kugerageza gukosora byose kandi dukwiriye kubabarira Mugihe cyo kwikuramo ibimenyetso biragoye cyane, kubera ko akenshi byoroherwa no kubabarira amakosa yabo, ariko, muburyo bunyuranye, birahagije kubyibandaho.
Byongeye kandi, kwigaragaza-ntibishobora guterwa atari ukuri, ariko bishimishije cyane, bigorana no kongera ibintu.
Amahame y'Idini
Kenshi na kenshi, kumva icyaha bituruka ku madini. Ibi biterwa na kamere ubwayo kandi ishingiro ryidini nkainzoka, irimo igitekerezo nkicyo "cyaha". Niba umuntu muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose bwamenetse (cyangwa yasubiye inyuma) amabwiriza yabatagatifu, byahise bitangira kumva bitameze neza kandi uhura namarangamutima.Ikindi
Usibye impamvu zavuzwe haruguru, kumva icyaha (abagabo n'abagore) bitera ingorane zitandukanye, igihombo n'amakuba. Cyane cyane iyi ngingo igaragarira muri abo bantu hafi bapfa. Mubihe nkibi, biragoye rwose kubuza kandi ntutekereze kubishobora gukumira urupfu cyangwa gufasha ubwanwa. Byongeye kandi, phenomenon yo "amakosa ya couring's" ni ibintu bikunzwe. Bigaragarira niba umuntu adashoboye kugera kuntego ze cyangwa atabonye ibisubizo byifuzwa.
Rero, twashoboye kumenya neza ko hari impamvu zitandukanye zitera icyaha. Niba uri mubihe bibi nkibi, ni ngombwa cyane gusesengura ibikorwa byawe nibintu bigukikije kugirango wumve impamvu runaka zateje umutima mubi. Gusa hamwe nubu buryo ushobora gukemura ikibazo kiriho.
Ubwoko
Abahanga mu bya psychologue bigezweho batanga uburyo bwinshi bwo kwicira urubanza. Kurugero, iyi myumvire irashobora kuba yimbitse cyangwa yuzuye. Reba ibyiciro bisanzwe.
- Neurotic. Ubwoko bwa Neurotic yicyaha akenshi yitwa ibinyoma. Mbere ya byose, ibi biterwa nuko, guhura n'amarangamutima mabi imbere, mubyukuri, umuntu ntabwo yari afite umwanya wo gukora ikintu cyose mubidukikije hanze. Gusa ateganya ibikorwa bye kandi afite uburambe kugirango bagire ingaruka mbi. Akenshi, divayi ya neurotic ituruka kubera amakimbirane atontoma cyangwa asanzwe mumuryango cyangwa abandi bandi.
- Kubaho. Kenshi na kenshi, vino yabayeho ifatwa nkimirangamutima myiza, kuko akenshi iba intangiriro yubuzima. Iravuka kubera uko imibereho yimbere. Ibintu nkibi bya psychologiya akenshi biganisha ku kwihesha agaciro.
- NYAKURI. Icyaha nyacyo nuburyo bworoshye - ni ingaruka zitaziguye zibikorwa cyangwa kudakora kwamwe cyajyanye umuntu ku giti cye.
Kugira icyaha, umuntu ahabwaho guhana abandi cyangwa kumena igihano.
Nigute igaragara kandi ni iki kibi?
Kumva ushishikajwe no kwicira urubanza ko kubabaza umuntu no kumuherekeza ahantu hose, birinda iterambere n'iterambere ry'umuntu. Mu bihe nk'ibi, ntabwo ari iterambere ryibibazo bya psychologiya (urugero, kwiheba) birangwa, ariko kandi hagaragaye hagaragaye ibimenyetso bitandukanye byibimenyetso bifatika bivuye mukarere nka psychosomatike. Ku ngero zikunze kugaragara zo kwigaragaza kwamarangamutima adakira zirimo ibintu nkibi:
- Syradial nyinshi;
- Ikibazo;
- kutizera muri wewe, ku mbaraga zabo n'amahirwe;
- kutagira intego n'ibyifuzo;
- Kwanga gushyira mu bikorwa ibyo watekerejwe;
- Icyifuzo cyo kwihana no gutera wenyine;
- bikonje;
- Gutandukana mu murimo wa Sisitemu y'imitima;
- Ibibazo hamwe na sisitemu ya musculoskeletal, nibindi
Rero, birashobora kwemeza ko Ibyiyumvo bidakira bidashoboka kugirira nabi cyane ubuzima bwabantu. Byongeye kandi, ntabwo ari imitekerereze n'imitekerereze gusa, ahubwo ni indwara zifatika. Hariho ibibazo bikunze kugaragara byo gutwara no kugerageza kwiyahura mubantu bahura n'icyaha gikomeye (cyane nta mpamvu nyayo ya yo kumarangamutima. Ni muri urwo rwego, niba wowe cyangwa uwatsinda mwa bafunze kuguma mumitekerereze isa, ni ngombwa cyane kuvugana ninzobere. Nta rubanza rudahishe ingorane zawe kandi ntugerageze kubikemura, kuko ibi bishobora kuganisha ku ngaruka zibabaje zidasanzwe.
Nigute wakuraho?
Nkuko twabishoboye gusobanukirwa, kumva ko ari icyaha akenshi byangiza. Niyo mpamvu ari ngombwa kumurwanya. Kugira ngo bakureho amarangamutima mabi, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze ya maniteri bateye imbere kandi bagerageza imyitozo idasanzwe, tekinike, tekinike, imikorere n'imikorere. Bazafasha gukora ibitera ibyiyumvo byo kwicira urubanza, bakuraho ingaruka mbi ziva kuri aya marangamutima, uhangane n'ingaruka mbi za physiologiya, kandi uhagarike kwishinja imyitwarire mibi no kubabarira imyitwarire yabo idashimishije.
Noneho, urashobora kwihanganira ibyiyumvo byo kwicira urubanza bifite imyitozo runaka.
- Kubabazwa no kuba umwe muri rusange. Kugirango rero, kugirango ukureho amarangamutima mabi, kimwe no gushiraho umubano nuwo muntu wababaje ibikorwa byawe, birakwiye kumubaza imbabazi zivuye ku mutima. Rimwe na rimwe, iki gikorwa kiragoye rwose, ariko, bizana ingaruka nziza mubihe byimazeyo imanza.
- Mubihe bimwe, ntabwo bihagije gusaba imbabazi umuntu muburyo bwibanga. Ukurikije imiterere yimyitwarire yawe idahwitse, urashobora gukenera imbabazi kumugaragaro. Nubwo bigoye kumenya neza amakosa yawe kuri ferris kwisi yose, bigomba gukorwa. Rero, ntukwiriye kubabarirwa gusa, ahubwo unatuze imbere.
- Ubundi buryo bwo mumutwe bwitwa Urukiko rwo mumutwe. Kugira ngo ubishyire mu bikorwa, ugomba kwiyereka ubwato mu rukiko. Muri icyo gihe, icyarimwe ukora nk'umwunganira na Porokireri. Muri ibi bihe, menya neza kutabashinja gusa, ahubwo ugashaka kandi gutsindishirizwa mu byumvikana kandi bikenewe byimyitwarire yabo.
- Gerageza kwishyira mu mwanya wa Manipulator kandi utuma wumva wicira urubanza (cyangwa ukomeze). Mugihe kimwe, ntabwo rwose byahitamo gukoresha uburyo bwumvikana kandi bufatika. Ubu buhanga buzaguha kumva ko abantu benshi bakora kubwinyungu zabo bwite bazagutera kumva wicira urubanza, nubwo bidashyira mu gaciro. Ibi na byo, bizagufasha guhangana n'amarangamutima yawe mabi.
- Nubwo waba warakoze igikorwa kitari cyo kandi ukababaza uwo ukunda, ni ngombwa cyane kugerageza gukomeza imyumvire myiza mubuzima. Ugomba kugerageza kunyeganyeza icyaha cyawe gihagije kandi umubano wibyabaye. Nyuma yo gukora ibintu byose muri wewe byashingikirije, ugomba kureka uko ibintu bimeze no kubaho. Ikintu nyamukuru nukwigira kumakosa yawe kandi mugihe kizaza ntubike.
Ukurikije uburyo bwimbitse kandi bukarishye nuburyo bwawe bwo kwicira urubanza, urashobora gukoresha kimwe cyangwa byinshi muri abatekinisiye wavuzwe haruguru.
Icy'ingenzi! Wibuke ko niba unaniwe kwihanganira amarangamutima yawe yangiza vuba kandi wigenga, noneho psychotherapi yinzobere yinzobere nujuje ibyangombwa ni itegeko.
Ibyifuzo bya psychologue
Kugirango ukire, iteka ryose reka kureka ibyiyumvo byangiza kandi ukomeze kubaho, ugomba gukurikiza inama nibisabwa byaba psychologiste babigize umwuga.
- Witondere gusesengura ibikorwa byawe nyabyo nibisanzwe bya psychologiya. Witondere kubona umubano wita kandi ukureho isomo ryubuzima mubihe byubu.
- Ishyire mu mwanya w'umuntu wababaje igikorwa cyawe. Rero, urashobora kumva ukuntu ingaruka zikomeye: niba umuntu afite bihagije kandi akagerageza rwose cyangwa agerageza kugukoresha kubwintego zabo bwite.
- Gerageza gushiraho ibyiyumvo byawe kumpapuro. Muri iki gihe, iyi baruwa ntabwo ari ngombwa kwerekana umuntu cyangwa no kongera gusoma wenyine. Umaze kwandika, birasabwa gutwika urupapuro no "kureka" ibibi byose bivuye kumutima.
- Gerageza uburyo butandukanye bwo kwidagadura no gutekereza, aho wibanda ku guhumeka no kugerageza kudatekereza kubibazo no kwita ku buryo uzahungabanywa muri iki gihe.
Kumva kwicira urubanza, kuba igisubizo gisanzwe cyumuntu kuri leta yisi, kimwe nibikorwa byayo nibikorwa byayo, akenshi byangiza ubuzima bwa psychologiya nubuzima bwumuntu. Niyo mpamvu ari ngombwa cyane gukora neza muri kiriya gihe mugihe uhuye namarangamutima. Birakenewe gusobanukirwa ibitera iyi leta no kuranga ubwoko bwayo. Nyuma yibyo, urashobora gukora ibikorwa bigamije gukuraho icyaha. Twabibutsa ko kure yaho umuntu ashobora guhangana nikibazo cyigenga - akenshi akeneye inkunga kubakunzi n'abavandimwe cyangwa ubufasha bwinzobere.
Ba witondera cyane kubandi hamwe nabandi kugirango amarangamutima mabi aricyo gitera ingaruka zikomeye cyangwa nabi.
