Chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe chimodzi kapena china chake ndi chosiyana. Wina amakhala chete komanso odekha, ndipo ena, m'malo mwake, sadzakwiya komanso wankhanza. Anthu akayamba kukangana ndi kusakangana wina ndi mnzake, ndiye kuti amapambana kwambiri malingaliro, kusiya kumveka bwino kwa chikumbumtima, kotero kuyesa kosalekeza sikutengedwa kuti amvere mdaniyo. Ndikofunika kulingalira zosankha zonse za moyo.
Momwe mungakhalire mu mikangano
Ngati munthu akwiya ndikukhala mwamphamvu, ndiye kuti ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa chifukwa cha izi, kuti mumvetsetse vutoli ndikuthandizira kuthetsa vutoli. Ndipo pamene funso la mikangano silisankha, munthu wotere amakhala wovuta kwambiri kukambirana.
Munthu 'amatuluka yekha,' muyenera kukhala ndi moyo modekha, koma kudzikuza sikungakhudze mwankhanza, ndiye kuti khalidweli liyenera kusankhidwa nthawi yomweyo.
Munthu akakhala wankhanza, malingaliro olakwika amakhudzidwa kwambiri, amaponyedwa mkati mwa nthawi yoletsedwa. Pakakhala bala komanso labwino, anthu amachita mokwanira, palibe njira ina iliyonse. Amakhala okonzeka kumvera malingaliro a munthu wina.
M'mbiri yankhanzayi, muyenera kulingalira nthawi zabwino posachedwa ndikukhulupirira kuti gawo loipa limapulumuka. Mutha kugonjerabe malo abwino ozungulira aura wanu, womwe umanyamula zabwino, mtendere ndi chitonthozo.
Mutha kubweretsa mkwiyo kuchokera kwa mnzanu, mutasintha mutu wake mosayembekezereka, kapena kumufunsa kuti azilankhulana kapena khonsolo yamtengo wapatali. Muwakumbutseni zomwe moyo wosangalatsa wakhala ukukulumikizanani limodzi kapena kukhala ndi chiyamikiro. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndiwe wokongola kwambiri." Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti kukhumudwitsidwa kwanu kumapangitsa kuzindikira kwa wokondedwa wawoyo ndikusinthaka nkhanza.
Palibe chifukwa choti musaperekedwe kwa mnzake wa malingaliro olakwika. Osamuuza za zomwe ndimamva kapena kuneneza chifukwa cha zinazake. Munganene mawu oganiza bwino, mwachitsanzo: "Ndili wokhumudwa pang'ono ndi inu alankhulana ndi ine, tisawonongeke kwambiri? " Funsani mnzanuyo kuti apange chifukwa cha zokambirana ndikuthetsa vutoli.
Vutoli liyenera kuthetsedwa nthawi zonse, simungathe kuzisiya pambuyo pake. Kupanda kutero, zovuta sizidzapita kulikonse, koma zimangochulukitsa ndi kudziunjikidwa, ndipo pamapeto pake adzakukhudzani.
Kusakondera kwa oyikitsirayo kungakukakamizeni kuti musankhe mwanzeru. Musalole malingaliro anu kuti akulalireni pamwamba, muyenera kuyang'ana mayankho
Apatseni interloor kuti muuze malingaliro anu pazomwe zili. Osayang'ana ufulu ndi wolakwa, ndipo muyenera kusankha limodzi zomwe mungachite . Nthawi yomweyo, otsutsa onse ayenera kukhuta ndi chisankho. Ngati sizingatheke kuvomereza njira yabwino, ndiye kuti mutha kuyika zojambulazo kuchokera ku moyo, malamulo, kapena kubweretsa malingaliro ena ambiri pokambirana.
Potengera chilichonse, sikofunikira kuti munthu azikhala wopanda vuto komanso kugonjetsa.
Sizingatheke kuyankha nkhanza zankhanza. Palibe vuto lomwe limakhudzidwa ndi anthu wamba, apo ayi sadzakukhululukirani. Ndikofunikira kufotokozera molondola ndipo ngati zingatheke. Palibe chifukwa choti munthu sanganyoze munthu.
Tiyenera kuyesetsa kupanga malingaliro mbali imodzi. Ngakhale zikuwoneka kuti mwafika ku yankho, mukufunikirabe kufunsa funso lililonse: "Kodi ndikumvetsetsa bwino? "Kapena" udafuna kunena? ". Izi zikuthandizani kuti musiye kusamvana ndipo kumabweretsa yankho loyenera kwambiri.
Polankhula ndikofunikira kugwira zofanana. Mikangano yambiri imayamba kuchita mwankhanza, kapena kuyesa kukhala chete ndikuchokapo. Osachita izi, muyenera kukhala modekha komanso mwamphamvu.
Palibe chifukwa chopewera kupepesa. Ngati mukulakwitsa pazokambirana, ndikofunikira kuti mubweretse zopepesa zathu, komanso osapitiriza kusamvana. Chokhoza kutenga zolakwa zawo anthu okha komanso odzidalira. Osawopa izi.
Osayesa kutsimikizira zomwe muli nazo zoyenera. Ngati mukufuna kutsimikizira kuti mukuwona za mphamvu kapena nkhanza, zopanda ntchito.
Mu mikangano, tanthauzo lake limasowa kutsimikizira china chake, monga munthu kupatula zokhumudwitsa zake sawona kukangana pamaso pake. Kuyesera kupondereza mdani wotere ndi "kufikira" zisanachitike sizingadzetse zotsatira zabwino.
Tiyenera kukhala chete. Ngati mukuwona kuti sizikumveka kuyesa kuyankhula m'njira yabwino, yesaniyeni chete. Sikofunikira kufunsa kuchokera kwa wina wothandizira izi, chifukwa zidzakwiya kwambiri. Ndiosavuta kuti musunge nokha kwa nthawi yolimbana. Kukhala chete kumakupatsani mwayi woletsa mikangano ndikutuluka.
Mu kusakangano uliwonse, awiri amatenga nawo mbali, ngati mbali yoyamba itatulukamo, ndiye kuti yachiwiri siyimveka kupitiriza kukangana. Ngati palibe mnzanu amene angakhale chete, kusamvana kudzapitiliza ndipo atha kufika pa nkhani yamanja kuti pa nthawi yathu ikulanga Lamulo. Ndichifukwa chake Ndikofunika kuti tisapewe zoterezi ndi njira zonse, ndibwino kuti musataye mtima onse awiri.
Osamanena za zosemphana. Siziyenera kubisidwa kuti afotokozedwe, kufunsa mafunso kapena kukhazikikanso. "Mawu otsitsimula" amangoyambitsa mawonekedwe osamveka.
Mukachoka m'chipindacho, simuyenera kuwomba mofuula. Mutha kupewa ndewu ndi mikangano, ngati mwakachetechete ndikutuluka mchipindacho. Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kunena kuti "pamapeto pake" mawu opweteketsa mtima, kapena akungowomba maso pang'ono potuluka, ndipo chochititsa chidwi chingayambitse ndi mphamvu yatsopano ndikubweretsa zotsatirapo zake.
Ndikofunikira kusunga zokambirana pakapita nthawi atakangana. Mukakhala chete, mnzanuyo angaganize kuti mumadzipereka ndi kutopa mphamvu zathu. Gwirani pang'ono kuti munthuyo adziveka ku malingaliro ake, kenako nkubwereranso kukathetsa mavuto.
Nthawi zonse sapambana mawu omwe mawu omaliza amakhalabe, ndiye kuti amene angaletse mkanganowu panthawiyo.
Njira zamakhalidwe
Ndi zochitika zilizonse, ndikofunikira kusanthula mdani wanu kenako sankhani njira yoyenera yamakhalidwe. Pali njira zingapo zotsutsana:
- Munthu akamayamba kukambirana kapena sakuwona mfundo yake.
- Mwamunayo akuyesera kupikisana ndipo safuna kusiya mkangano.
- Mgwirizano ndi kuyesa kupita kumisonkhano ndikuthandizira kuthetsa vutoli.
- Kusintha kwa momwe zinthu ziliri - mutha kupanga kuti mikangano isakule.
- Kunyengerera ndiye njira yopindulitsa kwambiri kwa onse omwe adatchulidwa, chifukwa nthawi zambiri zimayambitsa yankho ku vutoli komanso kuthetsa kulumikizana kwa mikangano.
Zoyambitsa
"Zifukwa" zapadziko lonse lapansi zosenga ndizosiyana:
- Zachuma kapena zachikhalidwe. Anthu akafunabe kutsutsana ndi ndale kapena kukhala ndi zochitika zina zamakono.
- Sociol-Degragragrag (formagragragragragragragraphic ya anthu kapena oyimilira mtundu wina).
- Zifukwa zamaganizidwe zamaganizidwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi momwe zimakhalira.
- Munthu aliyense payekha amasokoneza kusiyana pakati panu.
Mikangano imagawidwa ndi magwero a mawonekedwe otsatirawa:
- kumverera (anthu sagwirizana ndi mawonekedwe a chikhalidwe chamalingaliro);
- Bizinesi (nthawi zambiri imabuka chifukwa chakuti popanga, ntchito zovomerezeka zimagawidwa molakwika).
Mulingo wogwirizanitsa anthu ndi osiyananso:
- zolakwika (zenizeni chifukwa cha kusamvana kwa chifukwa sikunali konse);
- Kuthekera (zogwirizana zocheza kusakondweretsa zidakonzedwa, koma panalibe kusamvana);
- Zowona kapena "zenizeni" (Kulimbana kwa omwe akutenga nawo mbali ndi oyenera).
Magawo omwe amapezeka
Mikangano imabuka m'malo angapo:
- M'mabwalo azachuma (boma, magwiridwe, ziwonetsero zomwe zili ndi kuchuluka kwa anthu);
- Banja (mikangano yotere imabuka mu bwalo la abale, pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazake, m'bale ndi mlongo, mwana ndi makolo);
- Kupanga (akutuluka ntchito yopanga magulu).
Pambuyo pa mikangano, tonsefe timamvanso opanda nkhawa komanso kupsinjika, zimangoyang'ana zovuta za nkhondo, mitsempha ndi malingaliro. Tiyeneranso kungonena za mavuto.
Samalirani wina ndi mnzake, yesani kuthetsa zochitika zosasangalatsa mumtendere . Dziwani malamulo ndi maziko a chikhalidwe chamakhalidwe olankhula molondola ndi abwana ndi ogwira nawo ntchito muofesi. Kwa osatsutsana, kulankhulana ndi kulumikizana ndi zolimbikitsa, nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala ndi memo, kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe ndizofunikira.
Yesetsani kuchita zinthu mokongola komanso mogwirizana ndi okondedwa. Malamulo akuluakulu ofunikira ndi chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe cha mikangano angakuthandizeni kupanga maubwenzi abwino ndi anzanu komanso abale ndi anzanu.
Za momwe mungakhalire pamikhalidwe yotsutsana, idzauza katswiri wazamitundu yotsatirayi.