Kuwonongedwa kwa ubale wofala ndi kovuta kwambiri. Pamenepo, mukafuna kusiya wokondedwa, muyenera kusiya mapulani ndi maloto. Zamtsogolo sizikhala zomveka ngati masiku angapo apitawa. Kuchokera pamalo achipani chachitatu, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosatheka kufotokoza chifukwa ichi kapena gulu lake lidayamba. Inde, nyenera kunena kumeneko, nthawi zina omwe kale anali okha omwe akuwadziwa pazifukwa zomwe amagawana kutali ndi nthawi yomweyo osati kumapeto.
Kamodzi ndi onse?
Mutha kugawana mbali zosiyanasiyana. Osati nthawi zambiri, koma pali zochitika mukakonda kuphwanya kwakanthawi. Nthawi zina nkhani iyi yolumikizana imalimbitsa chikondi kwa wina ndi mnzake. Koma sikuti malo onse olerera ndi abwino.
- Mabanja ena atatha macheza achikondi amasunganso anzanu kapena ochezeka. Zachidziwikire, izi ndizotheka ngati anthu onsewa athe kupirira zomwe akumva komanso kusokoneza kumverera kopweteka. Zimachitika kuti kuchokera pabanja zomwe m'mapeto pake ndizabwino komanso abwenzi apamtima pa moyo.
Nthawi zambiri, kugawa kumatha kuyankhulana kwathunthu. Ngati malingaliro amodzi mwa ochita nawo sanathe, ndiye kutikumbutsana ndi kukhudzana ndi zowawa zochokera pansi pamtima. Migoyi nthawi zambiri imasiya cholakwa chachikulu, ndipo anthu pankhaniyi ang'amba wina ndi mnzake.
- Maanja akukumana ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi nthawi zambiri amasankha kupuma kwakanthawi. Uku ndikugwedezeka kwa malingaliro, kuthekera kolingalira ndikuyesa momwe mukumvera. Kukonda mochokera pansi pamtima atakumananso mwamphamvu. Koma simuyenera kutengera njira imeneyi pamavuto aliwonse.
- Mapazi ndi olemera kwambiri, pomwe onse awiri kapena onse amakhala ndi malingaliro oona mtima. Mosasamala kanthu za kulekanitsa, munthuyo amakakamizidwa kuti azitha kupweteka pakati pa kufuna kukhala ndi wokondedwa wake ndi kulephera kupitiliza chibwenzicho. Kudzimva kungagwiritsidwe ntchito komanso kusathaka miyezi yayitali ngakhale zaka. Kuchoka, mwachikondi, mphamvu yayikulu yofunikira. Nthawi zambiri izi zimabweretsa nkhawa yayitali.
Zomwe Zimayambitsa
Chifukwa chiyani kusakondana ndi anthu ena sikuli mbali? Kodi zifukwa zake ndi chimodzi kapena zonse zimasokoneza chiyani? Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mikhalidwe ndi moyo zomwe zimayambitsa kusokonezeka kwa mabanja ndi mabanja?
- Chifukwa chophwanya ubale ukhoza kukhala Kukhumudwitsa mwa wokondedwa. Anthu ambiri, makamaka ata msinkhu, ayenera kuti amalumikizidwa kuti apange unyinji wa mikhalidwe yomwe ilibe mikhalidwe, kuyimira chithunzi chabwino komanso chofuna. Makamaka nthawi zambiri zokhumudwitsa zimachitika pambuyo poyambira moyo limodzi. Moyo wamba umawululira zisanachitike zomwe sizinawonetsere kapena kubisa zophophonya ndi mawonekedwe a umunthu wa munthu. Nthawi zambiri, palibe Voucher kupita kumoyo wophatikizika, ngakhale okwatirana omwe akumana zaka zingapo abwera bwino.
- Imatha kubweretsa kusiya kusiyanitsa kwamphamvu komanso Kusagwirizana kwa otchulidwa. Ndikovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi omwe sagawana nawo zosangalatsa zanu, malingaliro amoyo. M'magulu a maubale, kuthandizirana kumafunika, kukhazikitsidwa kwa mnzake. Koma ndi dziko losiyananso padziko lonse lapansi, khalani ndi kusamalira chidaliro, chodzazidwa ndi kumvetsetsa komanso kulemekeza mgwirizano paubwenzi sikungathe kuchita bwino.
- Kugawa ndi munthu kapena mtsikana akhoza kuchitika Chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwa wokondedwa wake. Kumayambiriro kwa ubalewu, kufunafuna kuti apange chithunzi chabwino ndi kugonjetsa mtima wa munthu wokondedwa, okonda kufinyana ndi mphatso, mawu osangalatsa, mafoni ena ndi zikwangwani. Pambuyo pake, zovuta zina kuti tigwirizane ndi mfundo yoti zonse zachinyamata m'mbuyomu. Ndipo akazi ndi abambo ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti azimvera chidwi kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wawo ngakhale ubale wautali. Kuperewera kwa nkhawa ndi zizindikiro zachikondi nthawi zambiri zimatanthauziridwa ngati kukangana.
- Bodza Imatha kuwononga ubale wabwino komanso wachikondi. Ngati chinyengo chimabwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza komanso mwadala, amasiya chilonda chakuya ndipo angawononge malingaliro a munthu amene amakonda kuchita zoipa chotere. Popanda kutseguka komanso kudalirika, maubale akukhazikika, chifukwa ena mwa okwatirana azikhala atcheru nthawi zonse.
- Nsanje yochuluka komanso yokhala ndi okwatirana amasinthanso ubale wofunikira. Nsanje imafuna kuwongolera mkokomo wake aliyense, nthawi zambiri amamufunsa mafunso, zimachitika chifukwa cha kukayikira komanso kunyoza. Moyo wolumikizana umakhala kunkhondo yeniyeni. Mmodzi mwa omwe amamenyera ufulu wawo ndi ufulu wokhala ndi malo ndi zinthu zomwe amakonda. Wina akufuna kuyika momwe angathere, kugonjera kuwongolera.
- Zizolowezi zathunthu kapena kudalira wokondedwa. Kuledzera, kusokoneza mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena masewera ndi vuto lalikulu, kuvulaza komanso kuda nkhawa kwambiri. Mitundu yoyipa ya uchidakwa komanso mankhwala osokoneza bongo nthawi zambiri amakhala limodzi ndi kuphwanya m'makhalidwe. Chifukwa chake, kukonzanso ubale wabwinobwinobwino kumakhala kosatheka, ndipo malo ogwiritsira ntchito kulumikizana ndi osawerengeka.
- Achibale ndi abale a munthu wina wa awiriwa akhoza kulowererapo mogwirizana. Nthawi zambiri, makolo a Ryano amaletsa mgwirizano, monga wosankhidwa kapena osankhidwa, m'malingaliro awo, sioyenera ku Chad. Chifukwa cha kudaliridwa kwachuma kapena zokhudzana kwambiri, achinyamata nthawi zambiri amadzikakamiza kutsatira zomwe makolo angachite. Komabe, makolo okalamba amatha kusinthana komanso akuluakulu omwe akwaniritsa ngakhale ana azaka zapakati.
- Kugwiritsa ntchito zamaganizidwe kapena kumathupi, zachinyengo, kupusitsa - zabwino komanso zomveka zoti mulekanitse. Munthu amene amakonda kuchita izi komanso mwadongosolo amathandizira kuti mnzake azisokoneza komanso mwano, safuna kusiya machitidwe ake. Koma amene amadana mano ake, adzapirira izi, zoopsa zonsezi zimaseka, kutopa kwa manjenje ndi nthawi yayitali kuti mumvere bwino.
Choyambitsa kulekanitsa chikhoza kukhala chinthu chovuta kwambiri ngati ndalama. Mavuto azachuma amatha kukhala ndi munthu wopambana. Kukhala ndi chikhulupiliro komanso chidaliro m'masiku a mawa ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa banja. Malingaliro odziwikiratu kuti ayang'ane ndi wokondedwa wake mu umphawiwo adzapanga anthu ochepa.
- Mlandu wakupha Zimapweteka ndikumachita zobwereza kwa amene adaganiza pa gawo lotere, ngakhale kuti muli ndi chibale chokhazikika. Amuna ndi atsikana ambiri amatha kukhululuka kwambiri, koma osati kokha. Ndipo pamene munthu wina akuchita nkhondo atapita kwa chaka chautali wa banja lolemera, amangosokoneza. Kupulumuka chiwonongeko ndikusunga ubale womwewo mulingo womwewo umatha kugwira gawo laling'ono kwambiri la Steam.
- Mavuto mu banja lamoyo Amatha kukankha ku chiwerewere cha maubale. Zoyipa kwambiri ngati mu awiri sizikukonzekera kukambirana zogonana, fotokozerani zofuna zake kapena ndemanga kwa mnzake. Zotsatira zake, banjali pang'onopang'ono limasungulumwa.
- Kupanga Kukhala Pamodzi Kuperewera kwa nkhani zatsopano zosangalatsa sizimathandiza kuti ubale ukhale wolimba. Kwa mabanja okhala ndi moyo kwanthawi yayitali, zovuta za zizolowezi zimachitika nthawi inayake. Cholumikizira chomwe chilipo chimatopetsa ndipo chikhumbo cha kusintha chimachitika. Ngati palibe amene akumva zoopsezanso wina ndikuyesera kupanga china chatsopano pokhudzana ndi ubalewo, awiriwo amatha.
- Kuyesedwa kwakukulu kwa maubale a nthawi yayitali Mavuto azaka. Pa moyo wawo, munthu aliyense amakhala ndi nthawi zingapo komanso otembenukira. Nthawi zambiri, zoopseza nthawi zambiri zimakhala zaukwati kapena maubale. Zovuta zachinyamata, mosaganizira amadziwika ndi chikhumbo chakuthwa kwa kadinala. Nthawi zambiri, mnyamatayo kapena mtsikanayo amakonda "kuwaza", amalimbikitsa zatsopano, zomwe sizikudziwika, kufunitsitsa kuchita bwino. Mavuto azaka zapakati nthawi zambiri amakhala limodzi ndi a Petine, kukhumudwa, kumva zokhumudwitsa m'moyo. Muzochitika ngati izi, ndikofunikira kuzindikira muzu wa vutoli ndikuthandizira mnzake wokwanira.
Ndi mitundu yovuta kwambiri ya mavuto azaka, ndibwino kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu yama psychotherarapist.
Za nthawi yofunika kugawana ndi bambo, onani kanema wotsatira.