Kusudzulana kumabweretsa kusintha kwa moyo. Pambuyo pake, zochuluka mu kamvedwe kanthawi zonse zidzayenera kusintha, ndipo si kulikonse. Nthawi zambiri, azimayi akuganiza kuti mungapitilize kulankhulana ndikuyesera kukhazikitsa anzanu mutasiyana. Ndipo ngati ndi choncho, momwe mungapangire kuyanjana, kodi simulinso mwamuna wanu ndi mkazi wanu? Za momwe mungasungire ubale wabwino ndi amene kale anali ndi mnzanu asanathe chisudzulo, ndipo tidzakambirana m'nkhaniyi.
Zabwino ndi zovuta
Atatha, kukwiya komanso kukwiya kudasiya kuzunza, maanja ambiri osasambitsidwa amalimbikitsa kulankhulana pafupipafupi. Ndizabwinobwino, chifukwa anthu awa amadziwana kwa nthawi yayitali. Silibwino kwambiri komanso labwino kwambiri lisanafike. Ndi bwino kwambiri kukhala ndi wokondedwa wodalirika yemwe angakuthandizeni ndi kuwathandiza. Koma osati nthawi zonse kwa iwo omwe kale anali ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi, amakhoza kukhalabe abwenzi. Poyamba, ndikofunikira kuti tipewe mfundozo mogwirizana ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa anzanu.
Iyeneranso kusonkhananso zifukwa zomwe zimatheka kuyambiranso kulankhula ndi mwamuna wakale sizingakhale zatsopano.
Onani chifukwa chake kuli koyenera kukhalabe ndi anzanu mutatha kuthyoka.
- Munali ndi ubale wolimba mtima, mumadziwa zambiri za wina ndi mnzake. Ngakhale muukwati, mogwirizana ndi zomwezi, kuthandizidwanso ndi thandizo linanso ndikotheka.
- Ana sadzaphwanya pakati pa bambo ndi amayi omenyera nkhondo. Kwa iwo, mudzakhale kwamuyaya makolo omwe angafune kukhala ndi nthawi. Mudzasunga mwayi wa zosangalatsa zolumikizana popanda chilengedwe.
- Palibe nzeru kuwononga ubale wabwino ndi makolo ndi abwenzi a mwamuna wake. Kutsanumira ndi Iye anthu onse, mudzataya ndi kukhala paubwenzi ndi okondedwa ake.
- Kucheza kwa anthu omwe kale anali makolo akale nthawi zina kumatikwatirana zitheke.
Komabe, pali mbali zonse ziwiri zolankhulana kwambiri zitatha.
- Munthu amatha kusintha kwambiri, makamaka ngati chigawenga chitapita nthawi yayitali. Makhalidwe omwe mwagwiritsa ntchito sangathe kuwonekeranso.
- Ndi kuphwanya kwakukulu, kulumikizana ndi mnzanu wakale kumatha kupweteketsa mtima kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, ndiye kuti nthawi yabwino kudikirira. Mwina onse asiya kuyesa kuti abwezeretse ubalewo.
Kupambana paubwenzi wolimba pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumatengera zinthu zambiri:
- Masinthidwe awa;
- Zifukwa zotsukira;
- Maubale okhudza mkhalidwe wa abale ndi abwenzi;
- Kupezeka kwa ana ndi malingaliro awo pa chisudzulo cha makolo;
- Malamulo m'moyo wamunthu aliyense mwa okwatirana.
Malangizo a Akatswiri a akazi
Akatswiri azamisala apanga malingaliro angapo kwa atsikana ndi amayi omwe angakuthandizeni ngati sakanakhazikitsa maubwenzi, osazindikira kuti "m'mbunya". Tizikhala pa iwo.
- Yambani kulankhula pambuyo poti kuthyola nthawi zambiri sikophweka kwambiri. Ganizirani malingaliro a mwamuna wanu wakale. Ngati sanakonzekere kukhalabe abwenzi, musamukakane naye kuti musamayanjane nanu. Zitha kukhala zotheka kubwezeretsa ubalewo pambuyo pa nthawi.
- Simuyenera kupanga maubale anu atsopano ndipo munaona kuti ndi mkazi amene adawalamulira.
- Yesetsani kuti musasinthe malingaliro anu komanso mkwiyo wa ana. Osazisintha motsutsana ndi abambo anu, musawalepheretse kulankhula naye. M'malo mwake, chitani zonse kuti ubale wawo suwonongeka ndipo osasokonekera.
- Pamisonkhano ndi kulumikizana, yesani kunyamuka. Siyani mkwiyo ndikudzudzula m'mbuyomu. Tsopano mumalumikizana ndi mtundu watsopano kwa inu nokha - monga anzanu abwino.
- Kulemekezana kumathandizira kusunga ubale wabwino. Khalani ndi vuto latsopano, moyo watsopano wa mwamuna wakale.
- Chotsani chikhumbo chowongolera munthu yemwe adadzudzula.
- Yesani nthawi yomweyo chisudzulo sichimalumikizana pafupipafupi. Izi zitha kubweretsa zovuta zosafunikira. Yesani kuwona pakati pa abwenzi pagawo lililonse lachitatu, osati zokhudzana ndi maubale anu akale, zifukwa zake.
- Nthawi zina amuna amapita kukacheza ndikuyesera kukhazikitsa anzawo kuti ayesetse kuukwati. Ngati mukuwona zisonyezo zomveka za zolinga zotere, koma kuphatikizanso komweko sikunakonzeke, musagwiritse ntchito munthu chiyembekezo chonyenga. Yesani yankho lanu ndi Iye ndikuyika izi.
- Yang'anani nokha, musayambire mawonekedwe anu. Kusudzulana ndi nthawi yovuta, koma iyi si mathero a moyo. Osakhulupirira.
- Musayese mothandizidwa ndi ana, abwenzi kapena anzanu wamba kudziwa tsatanetsatane wa moyo wa munthu wakale. Chilichonse chomwe amaganizira zoyenera, adzauza pamisonkhano ndi zokambirana. Tsopano ali ndi ufulu wa zinsinsi za akazi.
- Ngati munakwanitsa kupanga ubwenzi mukatha kusudzulana, musati muchepetse kukumbukira. Lankhulanani ndi mitu yapano, gawani zinthu zatsopano komanso zosangalatsa zomwe zimachitika pakadali pano.
- Nthawi zina mnzanuyo amakonzeka kupitiriza kulankhulana, koma savuta kumva za kusintha kwa moyo wanu. Zikatero, sikofunikira kuti mumupweteketse, kufotokozera mwadala za ubale ndi munthu wina.
Kubwezeretsa kwa banja
Pali nthawi zina pamene, mutatha kusudzulana, makolo akale akale amalumikizana. Nthawi zambiri, kuyanjana kwaubwenzi komanso kulankhulana nthawi yopuma kunaperekedwa. Koma azimayi ambiri angakayikire ngati kuli koyenera kubwerera kwa munthu.
Zochitika zokumana nazo nthawi zambiri zimapangitsa mmodzi wa okwatirana, amasintha mawonekedwe.
Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kumangira mgwirizano pambuyo pake, ngakhale pali chikhumbo chogwirizana ndi omwe kale anali nawo akale. Pali zizindikiro zina kuti munthu akufuna kukubwezerani. Tizisanthula pansipa.
- Amakondwera kwambiri ndi moyo wanu, mosalekeza amafunsa anzanu kapena inunso. Munthu amene sakufunanso kugwirizanitsa moyo wake ndi mkazi, sikosangalatsa kwambiri kuti tsatanetsatane wa misonkhano yake, kukhalapo kwa maubale atsopano kapena ntchito yantchito.
- Mwamunayo akuyesera kukuwonani momwe mungathere. Nthawi zambiri imapangidwa momveka bwino komanso yaying'ono.
- Mudazindikira kuti mawonekedwe ake adakula bwino, amabwera pachithunzi cha zinthu. Nthawi zambiri, amuna m'mikhalidwe yotere amakhala chochuluka kuposa nthawi yogwirizana muukwati.
- Panali zizindikiro za chiyanjano: mphatso zazing'ono, zoyamikiridwa.
Pendani mwayi wobwezeretsa banja lanu komanso moyo wowonjezereka palimodzi, koma osafulumira.
Ngati munthu akukusangalatsani, amatha kudikirira ndikupatsani nthawi yosankha zochita, zomwe sizidzadandaula kumapeto. Nawa maupangiri ena omwe angathandize kusankha bwino.
- Osathamangira kukakweranso. Kwezani nthawi yachikondi ndikuwona zomverera zanu.
- Maganizo anu amangoganiza, gawani zomwe zikukumana nazo komanso malingaliro omwe akukumana ndi pano.
- Osanenanso zonena, chifukwa kugonana kwanu sikunachitike monga choncho. Ndi zolankhula zotere zokhazo zomwe ziyenera kuchitika modekha, modekha, popanda malingaliro, mwano ndi zinyozo. Ndemanga ziyenera kukhala zomveka ndipo zimakangana.
- Konzani ana kukhalanso limodzi. Yankhani mafunso omwe alamulira kotero kuti akuwonekeratu chifukwa cha zaka zawo.
- Onetsetsani kuti kubwezeretsanso zolinga zanu. Osadzikakamiza motsutsana ndi kufuna kwanu ndi kufuna kwanu.
- Yesani kusankha nokha kusankha. Nthawi zambiri makolo, abale kapena abwenzi akuyesera kulowerera pa zomwe zikuchitika. Koma ndi udindo wachitatu, sangapeze chidziwitso nthawi zonse, ndipo koposa kuti asamvere zakukhosi kwanu.
- Yesani kusanthula ndi zolakwitsa zanu, gwiritsani ntchito, mverani zonena za mwamuna wakaleyo. Mwayi wachiwiri sunali kuperekedwa nthawi zonse, ndipo ndi wopusa kutaya chifukwa cha kuumirira kwake ndi kunyada.
- Phatikizani zotengera zabwino. Kuleza mtima ndi kuthandizirana kumakuthandizani kuti muyandikirane ndikukhazikitsa moyo wolumikizana.
