Aliyense kamodzi m'moyo wake adakumana ndi kaduka. Anthu amodzi amadziwika mosavuta ndi izi, enawo, amangodzifunira kuchokera mkati, koma sanakonzekere kuvomereza. Kuyambira ndili mwana, kholo lililonse limapangitsa mwana wake kuti azichitira nsanje ena zoipa. Pazofotokozera, amafanizira izi ndi nyongolotsi yomwe imakhala pachifuwa ndi kusowetsa moyo. Komabe, kufotokoza kwa makolo kwayiwalika ndi zaka. Ndipo kumverera kwa kanjezi nthawi zina kumapita ku nthawi yayitali kwambiri. Chotsani nsanje yoyera ndi yakuda. Zomwe zimasiyana pakati pawo ndi momwe amadziwonekera okha, kuphunzira m'nkhaniyi.
Ndi chiyani?
M'malemba ambiri amagwira, mutha kukwaniritsa zolakwika zomverera kwa kaduka. Mwachitsanzo, matalala oyera oyera ndi opeza, chipwirikiti ndi otchulidwa "amkango" mfumu "). Ngakhale m'Baibulo, kumverera kwa kaduka pakati pa Kaini ndi abale a Avewa kumatchulidwa. M'malo mwake, kaduka ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri. Ndi kumvetsetsa maziko ake, muyenera kuganizira tanthauzo la izi:
- kupikisana;
- zoyipa;
- chidani;
- kusakhutira;
- Kuyerekezera.
Ili ndi gawo limodzi lokha la miyambo yomwe imangoganiza bwino. Koma chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri ndikuti kumverera m'moyo weniweni kumapezeka pansi pa masks osiyanasiyana.
Kumva kuti kumverera kwa kaduka kumatanthauza kuti munthu wokhoza kukhala wopanda kanthu kalikonse komwe ena ali nawo . Mwachitsanzo, mzimayi akufuna ubweya wa ubweya kuchokera mu ubweya wachilengedwe. Koma zochitika moyo amamukakamiza kuti avale jekete wamba kapena malaya ochita kupanga. Ndipo bwenzi lake limatenga chovala cha ubweya pansi. Chifukwa chake, mayi amakhala ndi mkwiyo wokwiya, popeza amafunitsitsa kuti adikire zovala zake zopangira zovala zapamwamba, koma sizingatheke. Kukwaniritsidwa kwa zokhumba zanu kuchokera kwa ena ndi kumverera koyipa. Ndipo monga momwe amadzitetezera, munthu wokonzeka wokhoza kubwezera amene zonse zikakhala. Mwa chitsanzo cha mkazi wokhala ndi chovala cha ubweya, chosakhutira ndi moyo wa mayiyu chimayamba kusungunula miseche za bwenzi lake, ndikunena za Noby. Koma, zitsanzo zotere zimapezeka tsiku ndi tsiku kulikonse.
Ofufuzawo adawululira izi Anthu azaka zokwana zaka 18 mpaka 30 amatha kutenga kaduka. Samasilira anthu ena aamuna ndi ana akale. M'dziko lamakono, zotsatira za pchenomenon zimagawidwa mu mitundu yoyera ndi yakuda. Amakhulupirira kuti kaduka choyera sichowopsa. Komabe, ngakhale, ngakhale mthunzi woyera ndi kovuta. Zachidziwikire, ndikufalikira, kumakhala ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa, ngakhale amatenga gawo lokakamiza, lolimbikitsa kusunthira patsogolo.
Matendawa a kaduka oyera: Amasilira, anasankha, anasonkhana ndi mphamvu, anafuna kufuna. Olankhula motero, Kaduka woyera ndi wokakamiza kutsogolera munthu kuti athe kuchita bwino. Kaduka wakuda ndi woipa kwambiri kuposa woyera. Amayambitsa malingaliro olakwika kwambiri ndi kaduka, amamuika pa mkwiyo komanso wamwano. Nthawi zina amafuna kuti kuwonongedwa kwa munthu amene amawanjenjemera. Pachifukwa ichi, chinyengo, chinyengo, ndipo nthawi zina amapha amakhazikika mozungulira kaduka wakuda. Kuchita zipewa zoyera kumatha kuchitika mokoma mtima komanso mosadziwa, komanso zakuda sizimachita dala. Itha kuyesedwa kwa olemera, okongola, aluso, opambana komanso athanzi. M'malo mwake, munthu amatha kumva kumverera kwa kaduka kokha pazomwe alibe. M'malo mwake, ichi ndi chovuta champhamvu chomwe chimayambitsa kusokonezeka kosasangalatsa posamba.
Wosamwa munthu amatengedwa ngati chimodzi mwazowopsa kwambiri, chifukwa chitha kuchita chilichonse.
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani?
Ngati munthu akumana ndi kaduka wakuda m'moyo wake, aura wake amatumizidwa ndi mkwiyo komanso wosadekha komanso wosakwiya. Munthu wotere sangathe kuvulaza mwini wake wa zomwe akufuna. Kaduka wakuda amatha kukankhira munthu pazinthu zoyipa. Mwachitsanzo, donthotsani makina apa utoto kapena kulemba chithuza kwa wogwira ntchito yemwe wawonjezera. Munthu adakumana ndi kaduka choyera sichimadzuka posamba. Samayesetsa kuvulaza munthu amene wakwanitsa kuchita bwino. Pulogalamu yoyera imakupatsani mwayi woti musinthe, mukhulupirireni inu ndi mphamvu zanu, potero muzikwaniritsa mtunda womwe mukufuna.
Ambiri amadziwa zomwe nsanje yoyera yakuda ndi yosiyana, koma sangathe kudutsa mawu. Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa izi ndi Kaduka woyera ndi wolimbikitsa komanso wolimbikitsira, ndipo wakuda ndi mkwiyo ndi udani. Ndi nsanje yakuda yomwe imapha munthu wokonda munthu. Zimachitika kuti munthu ndiwovuta kwambiri kuthana ndi kaduka. Chisankho chokhacho ndi thandizo la katswiri wazamankhwala woyenera kwambiri.
Zoyambitsa Zochitika
Zomwe zimayambitsa kumverera kaduka kwa munthu aliyense ndi kosiyana. Zonse zimatengera umunthu ndi chikhalidwe. Komabe, malinga ndi akatswiri azamankhwala, Kudziyesa kwakukulu, chikondi chodzitama, kufunitsitsa kukhala ndi zabwino zambiri, maphunziro olakwika komanso kufooka kwa mzimu . Kukonda mphamvu kumatha kutchulidwa pamndandanda womwewo. Ngakhale kusiyanasiyana kwa zifukwa zonyinyirika, amaphatikizidwa ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri, ndiye kuti kufunitsitsa kukhala ndi munthu wina.
Ponena za kaduka yoyera ndi yakuda pali nkhani zosiyanasiyana, nkhani zazing'ono, nthano ndi mafanizo. Mwachitsanzo, tsiku lina Mmwenye wachikulireyo adauza mdzukulu wake yemwe ali mu moyo wa munthu aliyense nthawi zambiri amakhalambana pakati pa mimbulu iwiriyo. Chamoyo choyamba ndi mkwiyo, chidani ndi nsanje. Wachiwiri amakhala wabwino, mtendere, chikondi ndi chisangalalo. Wamng'ono wa ku India anamvera nkhaniyi mosamala, anafunsa agogo ake aamuna, kuti ndi mmbulu wamtundu wanji, komwe Mmwenye wachikulireyo adayankha kuti adagonjetsedwa ndi ameneyo.
Akatswiri ambiri azamisala akukhulupirira kuti kumverera kwa nsanje ndi chinthu chopatsirana. Ngati malingaliro oterowo adawonekera m'mutu mwa munthu m'modzi, adzamenya mnzake. Mwachitsanzo, bambo kwa nthawi yayitali adasilira kupambana kwa anzawo, chifukwa cha zomwe adayamba kukambirana ndi gulu lonse la wogwira ntchito, adayamba kunena za iye kuchokera kumaso, kutola miseche ndipo adalowa m'malo mwa nkhonya buku. Popeza atamva izi, anthu 10 mwa antchito 10 adzagwera kumbali ya zotheka, ndipo nkhondo yolimbana ndi munthu wopambana idzamangidwa ndi mphamvu ziwiri.
Akatswiri azachipatala amalonda amalipira anthu odzidalira chifukwa chokhala ndi umphawi komanso umphawi. Amakhala ndi kaduka ka zinthu zopanda chilungamo, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuthana nazo. Pafupifupi kuvuta kuthetsa anthu akhungu omwe amadziona ngati otayika komanso osafunikira. Amapatsidwa nthawi zonse kulibe moyo wabwino. Nthawi yomweyo, ngakhale kupambana pang'ono, iwonso amazindikira ngati kugonjetsedwa.
Osayiwala Mwiniwake, kumverera kaduka, kumangokhala chifukwa cha kuvutika kwa mavuto ndi maonekedwe ake . Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti simungathe kutaya mtima wochita bwino. Kenako muyenera kukhala ndi chisoni. Zovuta zothetsa mavuto zimapangitsa matenda ambiri - osati zauzimu zokha, komanso zakuthupi.
Kuphatikiza apo, nsanje pakuwukira kwamphamvu kwamphamvu kumatha kupangitsa kuti anthu osalakwa azikhudzidwa. Chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri ndichakuti Aliyense wa iwo akhoza kukhala wotsutsa wamkulu kwambiri, ndiye nsanje yomwe iyenera kukhala yolimba.
Ngakhale nsanje yachilendo ndiyofanana ndi kaduka. Zonsezi zimafuna kukhala ndi china chake. Ndipo kumene kuli malingaliro otere, chikumbumtima, chifuka ndi kudziona kuti palibe.
Upangiri Wothandiza
Tsoka ilo, sizotheka nthawi zonse kupirira nanu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kaduka amabwera mosayembekezereka ndipo amatha kukoka munthu kuchokera mkati kwa nthawi yayitali. Mwakuti izi sizichitika, ndikofunikira kudziwa chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chimapezeka ndi nsanje ndikugwira ntchito ndi wamisala. Ndikofunika kudzipangitsa nokha zinthu zokongola, chakudya chokoma, kumapita ku zochitika zosangalatsa, kusiya dzikolo, kukaona mayiko akutali. Kuti muchepetse kumverera kwa kaduka, muyenera kudzilimbitsa nthawi zonse. Palibenso sizingafanane ndi anthu ena. Kumasulidwa ku kaduka, moyo wa munthu umasintha kwathunthu. Ali ndi zinthu zatsopano zofunika kuzifuna, anzathu. Kodi mukumva kuti zikusintha kukhala bwinoko, ndipo funso "simungandikhulupirire bwanji?" amapita kumbuyo.
Munthu amakhala wovuta kwambiri wotakankhira pawokha, koma ndi njira yoyenera mutha kusintha izi pofunafuna. Mwachitsanzo, azimayi omwe akufuna kuti achepetse kunenepa ndikokwanira kuyang'ana matupi okongola a oimira achinsinsi ogonana ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Iwo amene akufuna kulemera ayenera kugwira ntchito molimbika ndikuyang'ana cholinga chawo. Chimodzi mwa makhonsolo ofunikira a akatswiri amisala, kumakupatsani mwayi wokhala ndi kaduka - kukulitsa kudzidalira kwanu.
Ngati munthu mwadala wachita nsanje, amafunikira kuwazunza moona mtima, tithokoze chilichonse chifukwa cha zomwe amachita.
