Kumverera kumeneku ngati kusungulumwa kumadzipereka pantchito zambiri. Izi mosangalatsa passnon ndizotsindika kwambiri za psyche ya munthu, chifukwa chake amakhala osasangalala. Palibe amene akufuna kukhala yekha kwa nthawi yayitali. Pakapita nthawi, munthuyo ayamba kumva chidwi, kenako nkosafunikira kukonza zomwe zili. Momwe mungachitire moyenera, tidzakambirana pansipa.
Kodi Mungatani?
Kusungulumwa ndi chifukwa chomwe chimakhudza kwambiri malingaliro a anthu, ndipo chimalimbikitsa kusalankhulana kwake ndi malo oyandikira. Izi zitha kutchedwa zochititsa chidwi, chifukwa pakati pa akatswiri ali pachikhalidwe kutenga nawo mbali ngati alibe. Kusungulumwa ndi mkhalidwe wa mzimu. Ndipo zomwe munthu amawona kuti dziko lino, ndilo. Ganizirani funso ili mwatsatanetsatane.
- Pali malo osungulumwa, pomwe munthu amapereka mokwanira zomwe amachita. Amayesetsa kukhala yekha ndi iye.
- Munthu akawonongeka ndi malingaliro ake, ndiye kuti kulumikizana ndi iye, ndiye kuti pamabwera kusungulumwa. Itha kuzindikira kapena kuzindikira (ngati munthu sangazindikire zomwe zikuchitika).
- Pophatikiza zinthu zomwe zili pamwambazi, ndikusungunuka kumatha kuchitika. Fomuyi imasunthira mosavuta mu matenda.
- Pali kusungulumwa. Munthu akafuna kukwaniritsa cholinga chilichonse ndipo safuna kumulepheretsa, amadzitchinjiriza ndi kuchotsa kulumikizana ndi anthu oyandikana nawo. Mwachitsanzo, olemba ena omwe amafuna kupanga bwino, yesani kusokonezedwa kwakanthawi ndi kulankhulana ndi okondedwa.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti ubongo wa munthu umawona kugona momasuka ngati kupweteka kwa thupi. Chifukwa chake, patatha zaka 30, munthu ayenera kupeza wokwatirana naye ndikusiya kukhala wosungulumwa. M'zaka 40 - izi zili kale.
Ngati mwatopa kukhala kudzipatula ku anyamata kapena anthu wamba, ndiye kuti muyenera kupirira nanu ndikuchoka ku kusungulumwa. Dziwani zotulukazo ndikugonjetsa izi zithandizira malangizowa.
Khalani mphatso
Anthu ena nthawi zonse amakhala maloto amtsogolo. Amakonda kuwonetsa oganiza, amene ali pafupi kubwera ku chowonadi. Zochita izi zimapangitsa kumwetulira kozungulira, motero siali a wolota ndi ulemu. Kuchokera kwa anthuwa akuuluka mu mitambo yapipi, ndikufuna kutseka ndekha. Ndikofunikira kuthana ndi chikhumbo chosiya zonse pambuyo pake. Muyenera kuyang'ana apa ndipo tsopano. Njira yosavuta yomwe ingachite mukamadzizungulira ndi anthu apafupi omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavutowo. Zotsatira zake, mumasiya kupenga chifukwa cha kudzipatula.
Anthu ena, akudutsa m'badwo wina, amatseka okha ndikukhala panjira yachinsinsi. Zikuwoneka kuti moyo udzatha, ndipo tsopano palibe chifukwa cholimbikitsira kulumikizana kapena kukhala ndi wokondedwa wathunthu. Chifukwa chake ndizosatheka kuchita mulimonsemo. Sitiyenera kuopa zaka zanu osati kumva kuti ndi mkazi wachikulire kapena wokalamba. Ndikhulupirireni kuti 50, ndipo ngakhale mu zaka 70 kapena 90 anthu angathane ndi kusungulumwa. Muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro enieni. Ngati mukumva mphamvu, onetsetsani kuti mwatuluka. Anthu oyandikana nawo adzathandizanso kukhumba kusamba. Moyo ndi nkhondo. Ndipo choyambirira, kulimbana.
Munthu akamasiya kumenya nkhondo, amwalira. Ngati mukufuna kukhala patsogolo, ndiye kuti tsiku lanu lililonse lidzakwaniritsidwa ndi malingaliro atsopano.
Onetsani zoyambira kuti mulankhule
Musakhale "Beech". Nthawi zonse amamwetulira anthu oyandikana nawo, ndipo adzakuyankhani chimodzimodzi. Ngati muli nokha, pezani vuto losungulumwa limathandiza kulumikizana ndi anansi pakhomo. Nthawi zambiri anthu amakhala pafupi wina ndi mnzake ndipo sadziwa ngakhale kuti anali wosungulumwa. Kusunthanso kusungulumwa kudzathandizidwa ndi inu. Anthu ena amawopa koyamba kupatsa ubwenzi. Zikuwoneka kuti kunyada kwawo kudzachitika chifukwa chakuti munthu adzalabadire ndi kusiya. Mantha pankhaniyi ndi mlangizi woyipa. Ngati mukupitilizabe kuvutikira, mudzakhala osungulumwa mpaka kalekale. Muyenera kuyesa kupanga nokha kuti mudziyendetse nokha panjira yopeza wokondedwa wanu kapena anzanu.
Mwachitsanzo, mwakonda mtsikana amene amakhala pafupi. Mbewa kwa omwe mumawadziwa. Chifukwa chake, mudzaphunzira za zosankha zanu zonse zomwe mukufuna: Ukwati wake, zomwe zimakonda. Pambuyo pake, kumakhala kosavuta kuti mupange kulumikizana. Atsikana osungulumwa ndi othandizanso kuwonetsa mwayi wosakhala wopanda moyo. Kuti muchite izi, kucheza ndi atsikana, pitani ku zosangalatsa. Mapeto, Funsani mnzanu kuti akuwonetseni kwa mnyamata amene mukufuna. Pakakhala chikhumbo cha china chake, ndiye njira zonse zimakhala zabwino. Ndikufuna kupeza abwenzi - musayerekeze. Ngati muli ndi ntchito yotopetsa yomwe siyibweretsa ndalama zambiri, koma zimatenga nthawi yambiri, ndiye pezani wina. Yesani kupeza malowa nthawi ina udindo womwe ungalumikizidwe ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Popita nthawi, mudzapeza anzanu, ndipo abwenzi omwe mungakonde.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi
Umu ndi momwe zingapulumutsidwire ku kusungulumwa. Mwachitsanzo, munthu aliyense angafune nthawi yambiri. Ngati mumakonda kusungulumwa, ndiye kuti kusungulumwa kudzapita kumbuyo. Ganizirani zomwe zingatengere pankhaniyi.
- Lowani ku laibulale. Kuwerenga ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yosungulumwa. Kuphatikiza apo, mudzangalandire kwambiri "luntha lanu. Zotsatira zake, mutha kupeza chilankhulo chimodzi ndi munthu aliyense. Mwachitsanzo, mtsogolo wanu wamtsogolo (kapena wosankhidwa) udzangolankhula mosavuta ndi zokambirana pamitu yosiyanasiyana.
- Mutha kuunikira moyo wanu wosungulumwa pogwiritsa ntchito maphunziro apamwamba ophunzitsira. Chifukwa cha zoterezi, mudzapezanso anthu amitima. Mwa iwo akhoza kukhala theka lanu lachiwiri.
- Ma muge osangalatsanso amakukhazikitsaninso kwa njira yomwe mukufuna. Pankhaniyi, mudzachita bizinesi yosangalatsa. Mwa anthu ofananira, mudzapeza anzanu.
Khalani ndi chinsinsi
Ngati mukuvutika ndi kusungulumwa ndipo simungathe kukonza zomwe zikuchitika, ndiye yesani pang'ono kuti musakhumudwe. Kuti muchepetse nthawi yanu yovuta, sikofunikira kukhala mu msipu wozungulira. Nthawi zina, kukhala m'gulu la phokoso komanso kampani yambiri, munthu amasungulumwa kwambiri. Izi zitha kuchitika ngati munthuyo ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi luntha komanso kutentha kwa anthu kuzungulira.
Muyenera kukhala otsimikiza. Ndikotheka kuti mudzabwezeretsa nthawi yomweyo kwa moyo. Pakadali pano, mutha kusangalala kukhala nokha ndikugwiritsa ntchito moyo wamoyowu ndi phindu. Mwachitsanzo, werengani buku losangalatsa kapena lingalirani za ntchito yanu yatsopano. Pa wotchi ya kusungulumwa, mutha kumwa kapu ya khofi yonyowa yonunkhira ndikuganizira mavuto anu. Ndizotheka kuti mwawapeza.
Mawa abwera tsiku latsopano lomwe lidzasintha moyo wanu. Mudzakhala mkati mwa zochitika kachiwiri. Pakadali pano, kutsanulira ndikukhala chete.
Khalani chete
Ponena za nyama, anthu amakhala olimba mtima. Mumtima mwawo, kumverera bwino kumabadwa chifukwa choti achitire cholengedwa chomwe chimafooka komanso mosamala. Lowani mu mphaka kapena mwana wagalu. Zolengedwa zoterozo sizingakulolezeni kuti mukhale otopa. Nthawi zonse mudzamva udindo wa moyo wa munthu wina. Zotsatira zake, kusungulumwa kwanu sikudzakhala lakuthwa kwambiri.
Chiweto chikukula, mutha kupita panja ndi iye ndikupanga mayendedwe osangalatsa. Chifukwa cha mayendedwe oterowo, mudzadziwana ndi anthu ena. Okonda nyama nthawi zonse amakhala ochezeka. Mwina pakati pawo mumapeza anzanu kapena amuna anu aulere.
Panga
Kusungulumwa kumatha kukhala ndi vuto lokhumudwitsa. Zikafika, mwamunayo akuchita ulesi. Pakadali pano, amangonama ndipo amangochita kalikonse. Zotsatira zake, dziko lotere limakulitsidwa, ndipo palibe chabwino. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuyamba kuchita nthawi yomweyo. Imvani mozungulira nokha. Zachidziwikire mudzaona ngakhale pang'ono koma kusokoneza. Iyenera kuchotsedwa nthawi yomweyo. Chifukwa chake, sambani mbale zonyansa, chotsani m'khitchini ndikupitiliza kuyeretsa m'zipinda zina. Mukangobweretsa dongosolo mnyumbamo, mudzakhutira. Komabe, sikofunikira kusiya. Ngati mukukhala kunyumba kwanu, pitani kubwalo. Apa mupeza zinthu zambiri zomwe zingafanane kwathunthu.
Anthu omwe amakhala m'nyumba yayikulu amathanso kugwira ntchito panja. Mwachitsanzo, Konzani udzu pafupi ndi khomo. Osakayikira ngakhale kuti anansi adzagwirizana nanu. Zotsatira zake, mumapanga abwenzi ndipo kenako zimalumikizana pang'onopang'ono. Munthu aliyense ali ndi ntchito ndi maudindo. Ntchito zimapereka kukhalapo. Ngati mumayambitsa, kenako muwononge mphamvu zambiri. Lolani kuti gawo ili lithe nthawi yanu yonse yaulere. Zotsatira zake, mudzawonjezeka, ndipo zidzakupatsani chidaliro. Munthu akadzidalira, samavutika ndi kusungulumwa.
Osamachita nawo malo ochezera a pa Intaneti
Osayesanso kusintha kulumikizana kwa nthawi zonse. Choyamba, makalata m'magulu ochezera pa intaneti si nthawi zonse nthawi zonse, makamaka mukamasinthanso ndi anthu osadziwika. Pamapeto pake COBWEB ikhoza kukhala munthu wokhala ndi zolinga zoyipa. Chifukwa cha kulumikizana kumeneku, mutha kulowa osasangalatsa: kutaya ndalama kapena kukhumudwitsidwa mwa anthu. Zachinyengo zimakubweretsani ku matenda omaliza amanjenje.
Kachiwiri kuyankhulana sikudzasinthira kulumikizana. Mukamakhudza munthuyo ndikuyang'ana m'maso mwake, mumamvetsetsa kuti kulumikizidwa kwanu kumapeza masikono ena. Mukumva mnzanu pachikhalidwe chachilengedwe ndipo mutha kudziwa momwe zimagwiritsidwira ntchito kwa inu. Chifukwa chake, yesetsani kuyanjana ndi maubale omwe mungakupatseni nkhawa zambiri ndi zomverera chifukwa chakuti zochita zanu zonse ndi zochita zanu zili ndi moyo.
Zamasewera
Chilimbikitso ichi chimaperekedwa akatswiri onse popanda kusiyanitsa. Zimachitika izi chifukwa malangizowa amagwira ntchito kwenikweni. Thupi la munthu likayamba kuyenda, silikhala logogomezera zochitika zina. Chifukwa cha makalasi okwanira, kufalikira kwa magazi kukuyenda bwino, minofu imamveka. Kusintha kofananako kwakhala panjira yabwino. Kuphatikiza apo, masewera amakhala ndi nthawi yayitali.
Inde, ndipo nditaphunzitsidwa bwino, mudzachita zomwe mumachita, popeza kukhazikitsidwa kwa moyo, kuphika, ndi zina zotopa kumafuna kugona. Mwa njira, malotowo adzakhala olimba, ndipo mudzamva kuti ndi mafunde amphamvu pambuyo pake. Kuphatikiza apo, mu masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupi kuti mudzaphunzitsidwa ndi anthu omwe mungawapeze nawo chilankhulo chimodzi ndikukhazikitsa kulumikizana. Ndizotheka kuti pakati pa anthu ena atsopano adzakhala mnzanu wamtsogolo kapena mnzanu wamtsogolo. Ndipo mudzapeza bwenzi labwino mu masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndipo pambuyo pake lidzakhala losangalatsa kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu yaulere.
Momwe mungachotsere kusungulumwa m'banja?
Anthu ambiri, ngakhale kukhala ndi mabanja, amasungulumwa kwambiri. Ngati mu khungu la anthu onse ali otanganidwa ndi iwo eni, ndiye kuti banja loterolo lidzaziika. Zonsezi zidzachitika chifukwa chakuti dziko lomwe silinagawidwe silidzapereka nyumba zolankhulirana wina ndi mnzake, sizingalimbikitse. Chifukwa chake, pitani ndi manja anu ndikuyamba kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, konzekerani chakudya chokoma ndikusonkhanitsa okondedwa anu onse patebulo wamba. Palibenso chifukwa chodikirira izi pamene tchuthi chimabwera. Ngati nonse muli pafupi, muli amoyo komanso athanzi - ndi chisangalalo kale komanso tchuthi. Chifukwa chake.
Mutha kupita ku banja lonse m'makanema kapena pitani paki yamadzi. M'malo omasuka, mudzapeza chilankhulo chimodzi. Chochitikacho chitakhalanso, sonkhanitsani limodzi patebulo lonselo ndikukambirana za mayendedwe anu. M'mabanja, mikangano yosiyanasiyana imachitika motsutsana ndi matenda omwe akubwera. Ngati nthawi zonse mumamvekera njovu kuchokera ku ntchentche za njovu, ndipo nkhondoyi ikukulirakulira, ndiye imirirani njira yokonza momwe zinthu ziliri.
Phunzirani kukhululukirana komanso kusiya kusagwirizana pa nthawi. Chifukwa chake mutha kulumikizana ndi kupewa kuwonongeka kwa banja.
MALANGIZO OTHANDIZA PESTORIG
Mu funso laubwenzi zonse zimatengera inu. Ngati mukufuna kukhazikitsa kulumikizana ndi anthu ozungulira, mudzapanga. Ndipo musaganize kuti zikhala zosiyana. Chonde dziwani: Anthu ndi a munthu ndendende monga amakhudzidwira ndi iye. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti inunso muyenera kuyesetsa kuti muchotse nokha ndi kulumikizana ndi anthu. Chifukwa chake, musakhale otsekeka. Ngati muli m'malo opezeka anthu ambiri, kenako ndikumwetulira mozungulira ndikukhala ndi mtundu wa aliyense. Anthu nthawi zonse amatambasulira umunthu wabwino, kuyesera kukhala pafupi. Muyenera kusalankhula osati ndi anzanu. Nthawi zambiri maubwenzi ochezeka ndi mibadwo yokhwima amakhala okhutira kwambiri kuposa kulankhulana ndi anzanu.
Chifukwa cha malangizo anzeru, mutha kuchita bwino. Chifukwa chake, musaiwale za makolo anu. Ali pafupi ndi inu, mudzakhala otetezedwa. Izi zikuthandizani mawa. Palibenso chifukwa choiwala za kuyenda. Mukamapita mumsewu wautali, mumadziikira m'maganizo ndi anzanu atsopano. Ngati mukuvutika ndi kusungulumwa, ndikukhulupirirani: Mavuto onse ndi osakhalitsa. Posachedwa chilichonse chidzachita. Pakadali pano, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito zachinsinsi ndikukhazikitsa kulumikizana ndi "Ine" yanu ndi njira zotsatirazi.
- Kusinkhasinkha. Amalimbikitsidwa kwa anthu omwe amakhala pamavuto.
- Umboni. Ndi njira iyi, mutha kudzipangira nokha ndikusandutsa moyo wanu watsopano.
- Makalasi a Yoga. Adzakuthandizani kuti mulowe mogwirizana ndi moyo wanu ndi thupi lanu.
