Zovuta zambiri, malingaliro olakwika amayambitsidwa koyamba ndipo pamaganizidwe amisala kwa iwo omwe amakumana nawo. Kuzizira pa unyolo, kaduka, chidani, matenda osokoneza bongo amatha kusokoneza thanzi la zamaganizidwe. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuthana ndi vuto lotere. Nkhaniyi ilankhula za kaduka: zifukwa zake ndi momwe tingapambane.
Kodi kanjelidwe ndi chiyani?
Kumva kansanje kumakhudzanso psyche yowononga kwambiri. Nthawi zonse amapitako. Ndipo pambuyo pake, akufuna kuvulaza, amabwezera amene munthu amamukonda.
Chochita chochita nsanje sichingakhale chosangalala osati kwa munthu wina, koma ngakhale kupambana kwake. Amangotha kuzindikira, chifukwa umalowetsedwa ndi kuwunika kwa zolakwa ndi zolephera za anthu ena. Chifukwa cha izi, ilibe mphamvu ndi nthawi kuti akhale moyo wawo.
Psychology yochitira chidwi kwa anthu ena nthawi zonse imakhala yodzisilira yekha, osatinso ena kapena munthawi zina. Kuwoneka kofananira kwa malingaliro ndi chizindikiro chakuti munthu sangathe kapena safuna kudzilimbitsa. Imakhazikika pofufuza zifukwa zomwe adasadalitsidwira m'malo onse. Ndipo cholakwa pazolakwa zathu, zolephera, amaganizira enawo, kwambiri m'maso mwake m'maso mwake.
Kumene, Maganizo oterowo kwa ife ndi ena salonjeza chilichonse chabwino. M'malo mothana ndi ulesi, limbitsani zofooka za chilengedwe, yesani kuchotsa zolakwa za umunthu wanu, nsanje imaponyedwa m'malo. Nthawi yomweyo, amabwezeretsa momveka bwino boma lake la Psycho-Maganizo, chifukwa kukhumudwa kwambiri komanso koopsa kuli ndi nsanje yoopsa komanso yayitali: zoyipa, kutukwana komanso kuwonongeka kwina.
Mosakayikira, kudzikuza kumayenera kuphunzira kulipirira mabwenzi ake. Njira zosiyanasiyana zamaganizidwe, monga kusinkhasinkha, kugonjera nthawi yawo yokhazikika kuti athe kuthana ndi zovuta kwambiri.
Kodi Mungatani?
Pali nthawi zosiyanasiyana m'moyo: Black mikwingwirima imasinthana ndi kusintha kwabwino ndikutuluka. Koma ngakhale pamavuto ovuta komanso osachita bwino, khalani chete ndipo wina alibe njira yothetsera.Kuti mupitirire, muyenera kuyamba kuchokera kudziko lanu lamkati, mutha kusintha zovuta zanu, zimachotsa mikhalidwe yolakwika ndi malingaliro omwe amakoka pansi. Kukula kwina kwa zochitika za moyo wanu kumadalira kupambana kwa njira zoyambirira podzigwirira ntchito.
Siyani kufunafuna chilungamo
Zolinga zathu ndi zokhumba zathu nthawi zambiri zimagwirizana ndi zenizeni. Palibe amene adakwanitsa kuyang'anira dziko lapansi ndikugonjera kwathunthu malamulo ake ndi zomwe akuyembekezera. Musachipange izi pakamwayi ichi, yokhumudwitsidwa ndi kukwiya padziko lapansi ndi kumwamba kosagwirizana kwawo. Aliyense wa ife amatha kupanga ndi kusintha. Ndipo pakuwongolera izi zidzachitika, timangothetsa.
Chifukwa chake, kusiya zoipa, kuphatikizapo kaduka, ndi gawo lalikulu komanso lofunikira kuti musinthe bwino m'moyo.
Siyani kudzudzula
Kutsutsa ndi phunziro losavuta. Tonsefe timakonda kwambiri zochitika kapena zochita za anthu ena.
Inde, ife eni nthawi zambiri timatsutsidwa - ndipo osati moyenera komanso molingana. Koma mulimonsemo, simuyenera kubwereza zomwe simukonda mwa ena.
Ndipo kuthana ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuyikanso ndemanga zoyipa kapena kufotokoza za kutsutsidwa kwa munthu wina, yesani kulingalira za wina momwemonso. Yesani kukulitsa kumvera chisoni munthu amene mukufuna kuti muimbe. Mosakayikira, idzakuthandizani kuti muletse ndikulankhula mokoma moyenera, moyenera, popanda wokhumudwitsa.
Nenani
Tengani lamulo kuti muone bwino ndi zomwe zinachitikira ena sikuti amachitidwa kaduka, koma maphunziro anu pakukula kwanu.
Chotsani chidwi, chomwe nthawi zambiri chimamasulira limodzi ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa, chidzathandizanso makalasi osangalatsa omwe angaloledwe tsiku lililonse. Pezani zosangalatsa, werengani mabuku, onani makanema ozindikira. Tengani zitsanzo kuchokera kwa anthu opambana. Osadziyendetsa mu chipolopolo cha kusachita komanso kusasamala kwa ena.
Dulani masiku anu moyenera. Ngakhale mutagwira ntchito kwambiri, pezani theka la ola kapena ola limodzi la makalasi okonda okondedwa. Izi zidzakudzazani ndi mphamvu, zimathandizira kuti musamale ndi mavuto tsiku lililonse.
Dzilimbikitseni
Dzifunseni ngati zolinga zina momwe mungathere. Ngati munganene tokha "Ndikufuna zonse zikhale zabwino" - Ichi ndi kuyika kosakwanira, chifukwa simunamvetse kuti "zonse" ndi "bwino".
Nthawi yomweyo, cholinga chake, yesani kuyang'ana zolinga zanu, zofuna, zokhumba, zomwe mungachite. Vutoli ndi lakhungu lotsatiridwa ndi ma tempelations ndikuyika mitundu ya moyo.
Tinene kuti mumachita nsanje mwamuna wanu wakale, chifukwa ali ndi banja latsopano ndi ana kuchokera kwa mkazi wina. Koma mverani nokha. Mwinanso kuwononga ubale ndi inu, munthu wanu amakupulumutsani kuumoyo, adapangitsa kuti mukhale mfulu, pezani nthawi yake yophunzitsira, ntchito, kuyenda.
Msungwanayo ali kale ana 4 kwa zaka 30. Ganizirani ngati mungafunedi pazaka zake kapena iyi ndi njira inanso yomwe ndi yopangidwira.
Kuthana ndi kaduka kwa anthu ena kudzabwera kwa inu pamene inu, mmalo mwa osaganizira, phunzirani kuyang'ana zolinga zanu m'moyo. Ndipo ophatikizidwa mokwanira (inde, chilichonse ndipo nthawi yomweyo sadzachitapo kanthu) adzakuthandizani pakukwaniritsa kwawo.
Dziikeni nokha pamalo a munthu wina
Nthawi zambiri, chinthu chansalu chimapita patsogolo kapena gawo limodzi la anthu ena. Komabe, kuchita manyazi ngakhale osaganizira za momwe mtengo womwe munthu wina amakhala nawo.
Yesani kupondereza defanoni nokha ndikudziyika nokha m'malo mwa munthu amene mumachita nsanje. Zachidziwikire kuti mutha kuwona mbali zina, zokongola pang'ono za moyo wake.
Mnansi wina ali ndi galimoto ina yatsopano, koma ngati undionera, amachoka mnyumba m'mawa kwambiri ndipo amabwera kuchokera kuntchito madzulo. Dzifunseni funso, kaya ndi ntchito yopanda chiyembekezo, yomwe imathamangitsidwa, yothetsera mphamvu zonse komanso nthawi yonse yaulere yomwe itha kuchitidwa ndi banja kapena ndalama zomwe mumakonda.
Chilichonse chokongola chilichonse, koma adasiya kuwonekera kampani yanu. Wogwira ntchito watsopano walandidwa ufulu wawo wolankhulana ndi abwenzi. Ganizirani ngati mungafune mkwatibwi kuti mubweretse kudziyimira pawokha.
Wina anakwera makwerero, koma sayenera kulabadira banja lake konse. Kapena, monga zimachitika nthawi zambiri, sizingayambitse. Ndi zitsanzo zotere, pamene "kufera kwina, kwinakwake," mutha kupatsanso zochuluka.
Chinthu chachikulu pano ndikuyika zinthu zofunika kuziika patsogolo ndikuwatsatira, osasokoneza panjira, kuwona kwambiri m'miyoyo ya anthu ena.
Zochita zamaganizidwe
- Yesani kuyang'ana zabwino ndi kupeza anthu ena mwanjira ina. Tumizani paudindo wawo ndikusangalala - m'malo mokhumudwitsa komanso ochuluka. Tsekani maso anu ndikuganiza momwe mumalowera nyumba yatsopano yomwe yandiyembekezera. Moleza mtima ponena za mwambowu. Khalani osangalala. Mwambiri, sinthani udindo wanu pamalo akuti "Ndimachita kaduka" mpaka "ndimakondwera ndi inu." Kenako mungoyerekeza kuti mukungowononga zikhumbo zanu. Pitani kudzera pazithunzi izi m'mutu mwanu momwe mungasangalalire ndi chisangalalo chopambana ndi kupambana. Zachidziwikire kuti simungafune kuti wina akudane nanu nthawi zonse za chisangalalo chachikulu ndikufuna zoipa. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuthana ndi chizolowezi chochitira nsanje.
- Dzipendeni nokha buku laling'ono. Lembani patsamba loyamba kukhala zolinga zofunika kwambiri komanso zofunika kwambiri komanso zofunika pamoyo. Mwachidziwikire, mudzadabwa kupeza kuti muli ndi zomwe mwakhala nazo kale. Pamapeto pa tsiku lililonse, gwiritsani ntchito zolemba zomwe zidzayambire ndi mawu oti "lero ndimayamika ...". Chotsatira chalankhulira zonse masana linali labwino kwa inu ndi zabwino zomwe zidakondwera ndikuthandizira kusamukira. Ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa kuti kudziyipa kumakhalanso chimwemwe. Musaiwale kuyamikila chifukwa simunasangalale ndipo simukukumana ndi mavuto ambiri omwe ena ali nawo.
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi m'njira ndi nthabwala, koma kumakweza bwino kusinthaku ndikulimbitsa chikhulupiriro mwa inu nokha. Sankhani chithunzi chanu, makamaka chithunzi chomwe mumakonda kwa inu. Ikani pakatikati pa pepala lalikulu loyera. Adzakhala "maphunziro", omwe chilengedwe chonse chimaperekedwa kwa inu. Koma machenjerero omwe mudachita bwino ndipo omwe ali oyenera kusilira, ganizirani. Mwachitsanzo: Samalani ndi kudzitamando.
- Mukakhalanso "ogwidwa" ndipo mumaona kuti simusangalala ndi kaduka, yesani njira yotsimikizika. Lembani pepalalo la pepala lomwe mumachita nsanje, kuwonetsa chinthu china chake. Mwachitsanzo, galimoto ya mnansi wanu, anzathu atsopano, bwenzi la mnzake. Kenako pitani pamndandanda ndi kusanthula chilichonse. Kodi mukufunadi chinthu chomwecho? Kodi mufunika lalikulu, kudya zambiri za peep imodzi? Kodi mukuyenera kukhala ndi mawonekedwe ndi nsapato za utoto posachedwapa? Kodi mukufuna kupita komweko komwe bwenzi lanu lapita posachedwa, kapena kodi muli ndi zokonda zina zokhudzana ndi kuyenda? Ngati yankho ndi loyipa, fufutani zinthuzo ndikutaya kaduka kamutu. Ngati mukufunadi chimodzimodzi, pitani pakupanga dongosolo lokwaniritsa cholinga ichi.
MALANGIZO OTHANDIZA PESTORIG
Kuphunzira kuthana ndi kaduka - ntchito yovuta kwambiri kwa ambiri. Zokhumba zathu zimasintha pakapita nthawi, ndipo maloto ambiri ndi malingaliro samakwaniritsidwa konse.
Choyamba, yesani kuzindikira dziko lonse lapansi mozungulira zomwe zili, komanso zolakwika zake komanso kupanda ungwiro kwake.
Tiyeneranso kuphunzira kudziona komanso kukhala okonda, sangalala ndi kupambana kwake. Ndipo ngakhale zimamveka zosavuta, kwa ambiri, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.
Osangokhala Oipa, mudzatha kusangalala ndi malingaliro anu ndi ena, dziwani zatsopano. Nthawi zambiri, munthu amayamba kuyang'ana miyoyo ya anthu ena komanso nsanje zam'manja ndi monotony.
Mankhwala abwino chifukwa cha chizolowezi chochita nsanje ndi kusinkhasinkha. Mutha kuyamba ndi njira zosavuta, monga kuphatikizika ndi kupuma. Popita nthawi, mudzatha kukwaniritsa mkhalidwe wa chidwi ndi mtendere. Zambiri zomwe mukuda nkhawa kuti musiya kukwiya ndikupita kumbuyo.
Ngati mukuwona kuti nthawi zambiri mumachita nsanje ndikudwala, musakhale pamalopo, siyani kumverera.
