Qhov xwm ntawm tus cwj pwm nyob rau hauv ib los yog lwm qhov teeb meem no sib txawv. Ib tug neeg tseem nyob ntsiag to thiab nyob twj ywm, thiab lwm yam, nyob rau hauv tsis tooj, yuav ua kub-tempered thiab txhoj puab heev. Thaum tib neeg pib mus hais lus cam thiab tej teeb meem nrog txhua lwm yam, ces lawv feem ntau yeej tus cwj pwm txawv, xa tawm cov clarity nco qab, li ntawd, feem ntau cov me nyuam tsis coj mus rau hnov tus nrog sib ntaus. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb yuav tau xav txog tag nrho cov kev coj cwj pwm kev xaiv nyob rau hauv txawv lub neej.
Yuav ua li cas kom coj nyob rau hauv ib tug teeb meem qhov teeb meem no
Yog hais tias ib tug neeg yog annoyed thiab behaves aggressively, ces nws yog tsim nyog los nkag siab txog vim li cas rau qhov no tus cwj pwm, to taub qhov teeb meem thiab kev pab resolve qhov teeb meem no. Thiab thaum lub sij hawm teeb meem lo lus nug tsis txiav txim siab, nrog xws li ib tug neeg nws yuav nyuaj heev rau sib.
Thaum ib tug neeg "los ntawm nws tus kheej," koj yuav tsum coj calmly thiab confidently, tab sis lub arrogance yuav tsis cuam tshuam Aggressiveness, yog li no zoo yuav tsum tau sai li sai tau tshem tawm.
Thaum ib tug neeg yog txhoj puab heev, tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv yog pomzoo, lawv ces muab pov tseg hauv tom qab lub deterrence lub sij hawm. Nyob rau hauv ib tug twj ywm thiab zoo mus ob peb vas, cov neeg coj huv, nyob rau hauv tsis muaj txoj kev tom tej taw tes nyob rau hauv txhua lwm yam. Lawv yog cov heev npaj txhij mus mloog lwm tus lub tswv yim.
Thaum lub sij hawm aggression, koj yuav tsum xav txog tej yam zoo moments lately thiab ntseeg tau hais tias ib tug phem lub neej theem yuav dim. Koj tseem yuav xa ib cov paaj cua ib ncig ntawm koj aura, uas yog zoo, kev thaj yeeb thiab kev nplij siab.
Koj muaj peev xwm coj cov aggression los ntawm ib tug khub, tom qab ib tug poob nthav hloov lub npe, los yog nug nws ib tug kev cia siab rau kev sib tham los yog ib tug tseem ceeb lub neej council. Nco ntsoov nws zoo li cas lub neej nthuav moments tau kev cob cog rua koj ua ke los yog ua rau ib tug tseem qhuas kuv thiab, piv txwv li: "Nyob rau hauv txoj kev chim siab koj yog txawm zoo nkauj tshaj." Qhov loj tshaj plaws yog tias koj zoo cwj pwm txawv feem xyuam rau txoj rau pem tus khub thiab switched nws aggression.
Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv yuav tsis raug muab rau cov tus khub tsis zoo xav. Tsis txhob qhia rau nws txog kuv tus cwj pwm txawv los yog liam rau ib yam dab tsi. Koj muaj peev xwm hais ib tug ntau me kab lus, piv txwv li: "Kuv yog ib tug me ntsis ntxhov siab los ntawm koj tham rau kuv, tsis txhob muaj teeb meem ntxiv li cas? " Hais kom tus khub mus formulate lub txiaj ntsim ntawm kev sib tham thiab daws cov teeb meem.
Qhov teeb meem yuav tsum yeej ib txwm yuav daws tau, koj yuav tsis cia nws rau yav tom ntej. Txwv tsis pub, cov teeb meem yuav tsis mus nyob qhov twg, tiam sis tsuas yog yuav tsum khoo thiab sau, thiab nyob rau hauv lub kawg lawv yuav rov qab muaj feem xyuam rau koj.
Tsis nyiam mus rau lub interlocutor yuav thawb koj tam sim ntawd los ntawm ib tug paub qab hau kev txiav txim siab. Tsis txhob cia koj tus cwj pwm txawv coj dua koj sab saum toj, koj yuav tsum tau saib rau dabtsi dlaws
Muab interlocutor los qhia rau koj xav txog cov teeb meem no. Tsis txhob saib rau txoj cai thiab muaj txim txhaum, thiab koj xav kom txiav txim siab ua ke yuav ua li cas tom ntej no Cov. Nyob rau tib lub sij hawm, ob qho tib si tw yuav tsum tau txaus siab nrog qhov kev txiav txim. Yog hais tias nws yog tsis yooj yim sua kom pom nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev zoo, ces koj yuav muab tso rau accents rau qhov tseeb ntawm lub neej, kev cai, los yog nqa ntau lwm nqe lus nyob rau hauv kev sib tham.
Nrog tej lub sij hawm, nws tsis yog tsim nyog los muab ib khub mus xav tsis xis nyob thiab swb.
Nws yog tsis yooj yim sua rau teb rau aggression aggression. Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv yuav tsum rau koj tus kheej txoj kev xav ntawm lub interlocutor, txwv tsis pub nws yuav tsis zam txim rau koj. Nws yog tsim nyog los qhia cov ntaubntawv raug thiab thaum twg ua tau. Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv yuav tsis thuam ib tug neeg.
Peb yuav tsum ua tiag ua kom muaj kev xav nyob rau hauv ib tug coj. Txawm yog hais tias nws hais tias koj tuaj mus rau ib tug kev sib nrig sib tov, koj tseem yuav tau nug txhua lwm yam lus nug: "Kuv to taub koj raug? "Los yog" koj puas xav hais tias? ". Qhov no yuav pab tau koj tshem tawm misunderstanding thiab yuav ua rau muab txoj kev ntau npaum li cas.
Thaum sib tham nws yog tsim nyog los tuav rau sib npaug zos. Muaj ntau nyob rau hauv tsis sib haum pib coj aggressively nyob rau hauv lub teb, los yuav ua tiag ceev uas ntsiag to thiab txav deb ntawm kev stimulus. Tsis txhob ua li no, koj yuav tsum nyob twj ywm calmly thiab khov kho.
Tsis xav kom koj txhob ntshai ntawm apologies. Yog hais tias koj yog tsis ncaj ncees lawm nyob rau hauv qhov kev sib tham, yog tsim nyog nqa peb apologies, thiab tsis txhob ua mus ntxiv qhov teeb meem. Peev xwm mus coj lawv yuam kev xwb muaj zog thiab nws tus kheej-ntseeg cov neeg. Tsis txhob ntshai txog qhov no.
Tsis txhob sim los ua pov thawj rau koj txoj cai tshaj plaws. Yog hais tias koj tseem tabtom los ua pov thawj koj taw tes ntawm view los ntawm lub dag lub zog los yog aggression, nws yog sib tsis tau.
Nyob rau hauv tej teeb meem teeb meem, lub ntsiab lus yog poob los ua pov thawj ib yam dab tsi, raws li ib tug neeg dua li nws tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv tsis pom tej yam lus sib cav nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm nws. Attempts mus suppress xws li ib tus nrog sib ntaus thiab "reach" ua ntej nws yuav tsis ua rau zoo tau.
Peb yuav tsum silence thawj. Yog hais tias koj pom tau tias nws ua rau tsis muaj kev nkag siab rau sim tham nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev zoo, zoo dua sim mus silence. Nws yog tsis tsim nyog rau demand los ntawm cov interlocutor ntawm no, raws li nws yuav tsum khib txawm ntau. Nws yog yooj yim rau koj mus silence koj tus kheej rau ib tug sib cav sib ceg lub sij hawm. Silence yuav tso cai rau koj kom txhob muaj teeb meem qhov teeb meem no thiab tau tawm ntawm nws.
Nyob rau hauv txhua teeb meem, ob koom, yog hais tias tus thawj sab ntog tawm ntawm nws, ces tus thib ob tsis ua kev zoo siab mus ntxiv lub sib cav sib ceg. Yog hais tias tsis muaj tus hlub yuav silence, qhov teeb meem yuav muaj mus ntxiv thiab tej zaum yuav mus txog qhov kev tuav attribution tias nyob rau hauv peb lub sij hawm punishes cov kev cai lij choj. Yog vim li cas Nws yog worthwhile kom tsis txhob xws li ib lub sij hawm rau tag nrho cov txoj kev, nws yog zoo dua mus silence thiab las mees lub annoying teeb meem ntawm ob leeg.
Tsis txhob tuab cov mob ntawm lub tsis sib haum. Nws yuav tsum tsis txhob yuav obstended yuav tsum tau qhia, nug cov lus nug nyob rau hauv tus cwj pwm txawv los yog calm lub interlocutor. "Lus mos" nqe lus tsuas ntxias tsis zoo ces.
Thaum tawm hauv lub chav tsev, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob npuaj lub qhov rooj nrov nrov. Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob sib ntaus thiab kev tsis sib haum, yog ntsiag to thiab calmly tau tawm ntawm chav tsev. Tej zaum nws yog tsim nyog xwb los hais tias "thaum kawg" ib tug mob lo lus, los yog cia li sharply npuaj lub qhov rooj thaum mus tawm, thiab lub scandal yuav rov pib dua nrog ib tug tshiab kev quab yuam thiab ua rau tu siab yuav tshwm.
Nws yog tsim nyog kom ib tug dialog tom qab tej lub sij hawm tom qab ib tug sib cav sib ceg. Thaum koj twb ntsiag to, tus khub yuav txiav txim siab hais tias koj surrendered thiab sab sab peb lub zog. Tuav lub mas kom txog thaum tus neeg cools los ntawm nws tus cwj pwm txawv, thiab ces rov qab mus daws teeb meem nrog twj ywm qab haus huv.
Yuav yeej tsis yog ib tug uas lub xeem lo lus seem, namely ib tug uas yuav tsis muaj teeb meem rau lub sij hawm.
Cov tswv yim rau kev coj cwj pwm
Nrog tej lub neej, nws yog tsim nyog rau kev tsom xam koj tus nrog sib ntaus thiab ces xaiv qhov yog zoo ntawm tus cwj pwm. Muaj ntau ntau teeb meem coj cwj pwm tswv yim:
- Thaum ib tug neeg evades sib tham los yog tsuas yog tsis pom tus taw tes nyob rau hauv lawv.
- Tus txiv neej yog ua los sib tw thiab tsis xav kom muab nyob rau hauv tej teeb meem.
- Kev koom tes yog ib qho los mus rau lub rooj sib tham thiab pab kom daws tau qhov teeb meem.
- Adaptation rau qhov teeb meem no - koj yuav ua tau concessions li ntawd qhov teeb meem tsis tsim ntxiv lawm.
- Cov dabtsi yog lub feem ntau muaj txiaj ntsim zoo ntawm tag nrho cov uas muaj npe, vim hais tias nws feem ntau ua rau yus ib tug daws qhov teeb meem thiab txiav ib tug teeb meem kev sib tham.
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"Ntiaj teb no" yog vim li cas rau tej teeb meem no sib txawv:
- Economic los yog socio-kev nom kev tswv. Thaum cov neeg tseem tabtom ncauj kev nom kev tswv muaj ib tug txawv economic worldview.
- Socio-demographic (negative tib neeg tus cwj pwm mus rau lub opposite pw ua niam txiv los yog tus sawv cev ntawm lwm lub teb chaws).
- Socio-puas siab puas ntsws yog vim li cas yog txuam nrog rau cov mus ob peb vas, nrog kev nqis tes ua.
- Ib tus zuj zus puas siab puas ntsws muaj kev cuam tshuam sib txawv nyob rau hauv personalities.
Tsis sib haum yog muab faib los ntawm qhov chaw ntawm tsos rau lub nram qab no:
- lub siab lub ntsws (cov neeg yog incompatible nrog cov ua cim ntawm ib tug neeg puas siab puas ntsws yam ntxwv);
- Ua lag ua luam (feem ntau yog tshwm sim vim lub fact tias nyob rau hauv cov qauv ntawm cov ntau lawm, official hauj lwm no muaj incorrectly faib).
Lub subjective theem ntawm teeb meem me nyuam los tu no kuj sib txawv:
- erroneous (tiag tiag rau qhov teeb meem ntawm qhov ua rau yog tsis nyob rau hauv tag nrho cov);
- Tej zaum (cov prerequisites rau ib tug unpleasant sib tham tau teem tseg, tab sis muaj tsis muaj teeb meem nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb);
- Tseeb los sis "tiag tiag" teeb meem (qhov confrontation ntawm cov neeg yog tab thiab tsis txhaum).
spheres tshwm sim
Tsis sib haum tshwm sim nyob rau hauv ob peb spheres:
- Nyob rau hauv kev sib raug zoo voj voog (tsoom fwv, rallies, demonstrations nrog zoo txuam nrog neeg);
- Tsev Neeg (xws tsis sib haum feem ntau yog tshwm sim nyob rau hauv lub voj voog ntawm cov txheeb ze, ntawm tus txiv thiab tus poj niam, cov kwv tij thiab muam, tus me nyuam thiab niam txiv);
- Qhuav (lawv nug txog lawm ua hauj lwm nyob rau hauv hauj lwm pab pawg).
Tom qab tsis sib haum, peb tag nrho xav tias nchuav tag thiab kev nyuaj siab, ua kom pom tseeb rau cov teeb meem uas muaj teeb meem, nkim qab haus huv thiab cwj pwm txawv. Peb yuav tsum xa loyal rau cov teeb meem.
Saib xyuas ntawm txhua lwm yam, sim los daws kom tau tsis kaj siab lub sijhawm nyob rau hauv kev sib haum xeeb Cov. Paub cov kev cai thiab cov me nyuam yaus ntawm koom cai rau kev sib txuas lus yog nrog tus thawj coj thiab lug txhawb cov miv nyob rau hauv lub chaw ua hauj lwm. Rau uas tsis yog-teeb meem, npaum thiab constructive kev sib txuas lus, koj yuav tsum ib txwm muaj ib tug memo, kev siv uas yog tsim nyog.
Sim ua delicately thiab nyob rau hauv relation mus hlub sawv daws yuav. Lub ntsiab cai ntawm ethics thiab kab lis kev cai ntawm kev coj cwj pwm nyob rau hauv tej teeb meem yuav pab tau koj tsim paaj kev sib raug zoo nrog ob lug txhawb cov miv thiab cov txheeb ze thiab cov phooj ywg.
Hais txog yuav ua li cas coj nyob rau hauv tej teeb meem teeb meem, yuav qhia rau ib tug psychologist nyob rau hauv cov nram no video.