Duk a kalla sau daya a rayuwarsa ta samu hassada. Mutane daya suna da sauƙin gane wannan tunanin, wasu, kawai ana fuskantar gurnani daga ciki, amma ba a shirye suke suyi ikirari ba. Tun daga yara, kowane mahaifa ya tilasta wa ɗansa don hassada wasu mara kyau. A cikin bayani, sun kwatanta wannan jin tare da tsutsa da za ta zauna a kirji da Erod. Koyaya, an manta da bayanin iyaye tare da shekaru. Da kuma jin hassada wani lokacin ci gaba a mafi yawan lokacin inpportunashi. Kawar da hassada farin da baki. Abin da suka bambanta a tsakaninsu da yadda suke bayyana kansu, koya a labarin.
Mece ce?
A yawancin ayyukan rubutu da yawa, zaku iya biyan mummunan bayyanar da jin hassada. Misali, dusar ƙanƙara fari da uwar rana, scla da mufas (haruffa zane-zane "Sarki". Ko da a cikin Littafi Mai-Tsarki, ana jin hassada tsakanin Kayinu da masu kaifi 'yan uwan' yan uwan suna ambaton. A zahiri, hassada ita ce sabon abu mai rikitarwa. Kuma don fahimtar da tushensa, ya kamata ka dauki abin da wannan haushi ya kunshi:
- kishiya;
- sharri;
- Kiyayya;
- rashin gamsuwa;
- kwatantawa.
Wannan wani bangare ne na tabarau masu tausasawa wadanda suka dandana. Amma abu mafi ban sha'awa shine cewa wannan ji a rayuwa ta ainihi ana samun ta ƙarƙashin masks daban-daban.
Jin jin hassada yana nufin cewa mutumin da mutum mai kishi yana son samun wani abu da sauran mallakar . Misali, mace tana son rigar gashin farta daga fitilar halitta. Amma yanayin rayuwa yana tilasta ta don sa na talakawa ko rigar wiwi. Kuma budurwarta ta sami rigar mink a ƙasa. Don haka, mace tana da ji haushi, tunda tana so sosai don ciyar da suturar sa tare da irin wannan sashin na manyan tufafi, amma ba zai iya cimma wannan ba. Cikar da sha'awarku daga wasu shine ji da ba a bayyana ba. Kuma kamar yadda ake kira kariya ta kariya, mutumin mai kishi ya fara ɗaukar ɗaukar wanda komai ya fita. A cikin misalin mace tare da rigar gashi, ba gamsu da rayuwar matar fara narke datti game da budurwarsa ba, yana gaya wa Nobby. Amma a zahiri, irin waɗannan misalai ana samun su a rayuwar yau da kullun a kowane mataki.
Masu bincike sun bayyana hakan Mutane sun kai shekaru 18 zuwa 30 suna da saukin kamuwa da hassada. Da wuya wasu suna hassada wasu mutanen tsufa da yara. A cikin duniyar zamani, hassada ta phenomen an kasu kashi fari da nau'in baƙar fata. An yi imani da cewa fararen hula ba mummunan abu bane. Koyaya, a zahiri, har da farin farin ba mummunan motsin rai bane. Tabbas, ya fi so, ya ƙunshi ƙarancin motsin rai, har ma yana taka rawar da aka yi na musamman na turawa, yana motsawa gaba.
Tsarin rayuwa na fararen hula: ya kuma yi shi, ya yanke shawara, ya tattara tare da sojojin, ya samu abin da ake so. Wajen magana, Farin farin ciki shine mai motsawa zai jagoranci mutum don samun nasara. Harkokin baƙar fata ya fi farar fata girma. Tana haifar da mummunan motsin zuciyar da tare da hassada, ya sa shi a kan fushi da fushi da fushi. Wani lokacin ma yana buƙatar lalata wani wanda ya hurga. A saboda wannan dalili, intrigues, wasu mutane, wani lokacin ma har yanzu ana kashe kisan kai koyaushe suna rataye a kusa da baƙar fata. Farin farin cikin farin ciki na iya faruwa da ladabi kuma ba tare da sani ba, kuma baƙar fata da gangan ne. Ana iya gwada shi don arziki, kyakkyawa, baiwa, nasara da lafiya mutane. A zahiri, mutum na iya jin jin hassada kawai ga abin da ba shi da shi. A zahiri, wannan zaluncin zalunci ne wanda ke haifar da rashin jin daɗi a cikin shawa.
Mutumin ya hurawa ɗayan ɗayan haɗari, kamar yadda yake da ikon yin ayyuka.
Me ya bambanta?
Idan mutum yana fuskantar hassada a cikin ransa, a cikin fushi da fushi da cikakken bunsred, fushi da ƙiyayya. Irin wannan mutumin ba zai cutar da mai mallakar da ake so ba. Harkokin baƙar fata na iya tura mutum akan matakai masu ban tsoro. Misali, sauke injin fenti ko rubuta wani tagulla ga ma'aikaci wanda ya inganta. Mutumin da ya sami farin cikin hassacin baya tashi mummunan motsin rai a cikin shawa. Ba ya neman cutar da mutumin da ya sami nasara. Farin ciki yana jin hassada yana ba ku damar inganta, yi imani da kanku da ƙarfinka, saboda haka yana samun tsauri da ake so.
Dayawa sun san abin da fararen hula na baki ya bambanta, amma ba za su iya wuce kalmomi ba. Babban bambanci tsakanin waɗannan ji shine Warmin hassabo mai ƙarfafawa ne mai ƙarfafawa, kuma baƙar fata shine fushi da ƙiyayya. Harkokin baƙi ne waɗanda ke kashe yanayin rayuwar mutum. Yana faruwa cewa mutum yana da matukar wahala mu jimre da jin hassada. Hukunta kawai shine taimakon masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam.
Sanadin abin da ya faru
Sanadin jin hassada kowane mutum ya bambanta. Duk yana dogara da mutum da hali. Koyaya, a cewar masana ilimin annunci, Babban kimantawa na kai, ƙaunar yin fahariya, sha'awar samun mafi kyawun fa'idodi, hadadden yarinyar, mara ilimi da rauni na ruhu . Ana iya danganta ƙauna ga iko a jerin iri ɗaya. Duk da bambancin dalilan dalilan sunadarai, ana hade dasu da wani muhimmin hadin gwiwa, wato sha'awar samun gaskiyar cewa akwai a cikin wani mutum.
Dangane da fararen fata da baƙar fata Akwai labarai da yawa daban-daban, ƙananan labarai, tatsuniyoyi da misalai. Misali, wata rana tsohuwar Indiya ta gaya wa jikan cewa a cikin kowane mutum akwai gwagwarmaya a tsakanin wolves biyun. Dabbar farko ita ce fushi, ƙiyayya da kishi. Na biyu yana ɗaukar kyau, zaman lafiya, soyayya da farin ciki. Kananan Indiya da suka saurari wannan labarin a hankali, ya tambayi kakaninsa, wane irin kyarkecin Wolf ya yi nasara, wanda tsohuwar Indiya ta amsa da wanda aka ci shi da daya.
Mistan Adam da yawa suna da tabbacin cewa jin hassada wani sabon abu ne mai yaduwa. Idan irin wannan motsin zuciyar ta bayyana a kai a cikin mutum 1, lalle za ta yiwa maƙwabta. Misali, wani mutum na dogon ya yi zarra da kwararren nasarar abokan aiki, saboda abin da ya fara tattaunawa da dukkan kungiyar wannan ma'aikaci, ya fara ba da labarin abokin aikin wannan ma'aikacin, har ma ya fara fada da abokin aiki a karkashin batun jagora. Da muka ji wannan bayanin, dole 1 daga ma'aikata 10 za su fada a gefen hisari, kuma yakin da za a yi da mutum biyu.
Kowane mutum masu hankali masana ilimin annuman adam suna biyan mutane da ƙarancin girman kai saboda matsanancin yara da talauci. Suna jin hassada da rashin adalci na zamantakewa, wanda ya fi wahalar cin nasara. Kusan da wuya a kawar da hassada mutane waɗanda suke ɗaukar kansu masu hisabi da cike da ƙari. Ana ba su kullun ƙarancin rayuwa. A lokaci guda, har ma da karamar nasara, su da kansu suna cewa ci nasara.
Kar a manta da hakan Da kansa hassada, yana fuskantar ji da hassada, dunkule a cikin mohistum na wahala da kuma zancen ji . Yana faruwa sau da yawa cewa ba za ku iya jefa motsin rai mara kyau ba a cikin nasara mutum. Don haka dole ne ka ci gaba da maganin shesed a cikin kanka. Abubuwan da basu dace ba suna haifar da cututtuka da yawa - ba kawai na ruhaniya ba, har ma da zahiri.
Bugu da kari, mai hassada a harin na karfi shadow na iya ƙirƙirar yanayin da za'a iya shafan mutane. Mafi ban sha'awa abu shine Duk wani daga cikinsu zai iya zama mai adawa da matukar wahala, to hassaci zai iya zama mai tsauri.
Ko da talakawa kishi ne da hassada. Duk waɗannan ji suna buƙatar mallaki wani abu. Kuma a ina akwai irin wannan motsin rai, lamiri, tausayi da gaskiya ba ya nan.
Shawara mai amfani
Abin takaici, ba koyaushe ba zai yiwu ku jimre muku. Abin da ya sa ya sa hassada ya zo ba zato ba tsammani kuma zai iya lalata mutum daga ciki na dogon lokaci. Saboda haka wannan bai faru ba, ya zama dole a tantance babban dalilin da ya faru da aiki tare da masu ilimin halayyar dan adam. Yana da kyau a sanya kanka tare da kyawawan abubuwa, abinci mai daɗi, balagurnuka ga al'amuran ban sha'awa, don barin ƙasashe masu nisa. Don kawar da jin hassada, dole ne a yi aiki koyaushe. A cikin wani hali ba zai iya kwatanta kanmu da wasu mutane ba. 'Yanci daga hassada, rayuwar mutum gaba ɗaya canzawa ce. Yana da sabbin abubuwan dauna a kan abubuwa, sha'awa, da sani. Mai tausaswa mai hangen nesa yana canzawa don mafi kyau, kuma tambayar "Me zai hana ni?" ya ci gaba.
Mutum yana da matukar wahala a cire da kansa, amma tare da kusancin da zaku iya juya wannan jin cikin motsa jiki cikakke. Misali, mata masu son rasa nauyi ya isa ya kalli kyawawan jikin wakilan mata masu kyau a cikin dakin motsa jiki. Waɗanda suke son samun wadatar su yi aiki tuƙuru da neman nufinsu. Ofaya daga cikin mahimman majalisun na masana ilimin kimiya na masana kimiyyar masana ilimin kimiya, suna ba ka damar jimre wa tunanin hassada - don ƙara girman kanku.
Idan mutum ya kasance mai hassada, yana bukatar yin roko a gare su, na gode wa komai kuma ba ya kula da ayyukansu.
