Each person dreams of filing his soul with happiness and joy. The desire for well-being is often encouraging a person to revise their own views, the desire to act. But how to achieve the desired goal?
Basic rules for changing life
Psychology describes some rules that drastically change your life.
Start your day with gratitude for the years granted for you, hours, minutes. Appreciate every moment. Do not succumb to laziness and fear. To change life for the better, you need to make considerable effort. From some habits and actions will have to abandon, and some, on the contrary, take. Do not be afraid of obstacles and obstacles. Overcome them. Do not fear failures.
Believe in your strength, goals and your own wisdom. Focus on your capabilities, not on constraints. Optimism contributes to the normalization of psychological, physical and emotional state. Positive thoughts charge a person with positive energy. Learn how to take yourself as you are.
Get rid of the shipment of memories and negative thoughts. Do not waste days and years at unpleasant meditation about your weaknesses and negative events in the past. Concentrate attention at the current moment. Learn to enjoy life here and now. Enjoy the events taking place in your life. Do not wait for an exceptional case.
Appreciate your uniqueness. Stop discharge yourself and your advantages. Replace negative reflections by positive installations. To gain spiritual harmony, you must fully accept yourself, your inner rod. Tune in valet and happiness.
Having loved yourself, other people and the world around us, you can improve the psychological state.
When a person belongs with love for labor and people, he seeks great success in any business. His life is changing for the better, because it acquires new wonderful paints.
Do not give in to emotions. Your feelings may not reflect the real state of affairs. Reality may be completely different. Decisions, initiated dialogues and conclusions, should not be made in the rustling of feelings. Analyze the situation on the "cooled" head. Stop focusing on important nuances, act, relying on assumptions. Error assumptions often lead to incorrect solutions. Hurry conclusions spoil relationships with others.
Do not impose your rules to anyone . By this you repulse from yourself. With the reluctance to live by your pointer, you have irritation and nervousness, and they have an opinion about you, as a tedious and too confident person.
Stop dramatize events. Do not finely inflate in a real tragedy. Concentrate at positive moments. Focus your attention on internal happiness. It should not be too serious about some situations. Look at them without too much voltage. Frequently from stress, fears and aggression.
Where to begin?
New life should be started with research on its livelihoods. Think that you do not like in your lifestyle. Lock your drawbacks to be eliminated on the paper sheet. To the right of each item, write down the desired result.
In fact, the usual life structure is very difficult to change. To do this, it is necessary to free themselves from negative emotions, painful thoughts, stressful states, own fears. A woman needs to find strength in itself to not use phrases like "how I'm getting tired of" how I am "," I have extended the day, "I would rather end the working day," "I am completely exhausted." Control your thoughts and actions. Drink from yourself negative meditation. Direct your mental process into a positive channel. The thought is material.
You can always change personal settings. To do this, make an individual program. Planning specific actions that improve the quality of life increases the likelihood of implementing your intentions. It should not be scheduled for a lot of goals at once, since the fulfillment of their scope will have less chances for success. Drive your diary. Record various events, analyze them.
First you need to master one new habit - and go to a new standard of living. After reaching this purpose, develop a specific plan for the acquisition of other positive qualities. For example, for the month you managed to completely remove the obscene absenteeism from their speech. Feeling that new behavior was brought to automatism, you can begin to the next step. It can be a getting rid of tobacco and addiction to sweets.
Learn to hear yourself. Start reflecting on your true desires.
What do you want in reality? How do you want to achieve it? Determine your vitality. Proper priorities correctly. Decide with your goals, make a plan. Fix your results. Do not let others confuse you.
Go your way. Leave without fear of the comfort zone. Many people do not want to go out of the usual peaceful state. In comfort, the identity degradation occurs. Difficulties and obstacles develop nature flexibility. Completing unusual action leads to good performance.
Be prepared for any event outcome . Everything can go not according to plan. Surprise treat quietly. Clean the development options. Show flexibility, adapt to what is happening on time. Diverse your weekdays, bring new paints in them, implement interesting ideas capable of changing the events for the better.
Observe discipline . All scheduled actions perform on time. Be honest with others. Pay all accounts on time, do not drive yourself into debts. Do not postpone things in a long box. They will be heavy cargo hanging in the shower, which will be a big obstacle to luck.
Learn to manage your time. Start right and finish the day. Going to sleep on time and only in a good mood. Before bedtime, do not figure out relationships with relatives, neighbors and friends.
Expand your horizons. Read artistic and cognitive literature. Learn foreign languages. Visit various trainings, seminars and other interesting events. Find opportunities to increase your intellectual level. Make the brain to work. Analysis of its own and someone else's experience contributes to promotion. We go to museums, theaters, exhibitions and excursions. Travel in different cities and countries.
Keep yourself always in the form . Exercise. Start with the morning gymnastics, perform squats and pressing from the floor. Winter in the morning you can run through fresh air. In the summer heat from the run it is better to refrain.
Provide yourself with full-fledged balanced nutrition. Exclude carbonated drinks, chips, sausages and other harmful products from the diet. Gradually go to the use of useful food. Do not forced yourself, do not wear diet and starvation.
Methods
Self-uraterapy begins With the preparation of the day. It is necessary to paint the coming days literally a minute. Include all of the estimated actions: nutrition, exercise, homemade, work or studies. Stick it. Try to fully implement all the ideas. Only an abnormal situation can make adjustments to the scheduled events. Do not waste any second. When a person feels that his day lives not in vain, his soul is filled with joy and happiness.
Look for your "I". For this purpose, it is necessary to free yourself from infantilism and illusions. Do not allow you to manipulate you, always defend your personal opinion, make decisions yourself. Do not close your eyes to the problems. Eliminate family troubles, improve the relationship with others, expose conflict situations to resolve, allow financial difficulties. Learn to take responsibility. As if painfully and painfully neither the solution was given to you, you need to make a choice.
With everyday emotional difficulties, depression, phobias and other negative manifestations can be coped With the help of some exercises aimed at the awareness of their own problems, the revaluation of personal installations and the achievement of the necessary changes. For example, over the week, write positive moments in a notebook, causing pleasant feelings. After 7 days, read the entire list. Dedicate another week to write all your negative traits and fears. Look for the way they are eradicated. During the third week, fix in the notebook only positive moments and the methods of eliminating negative emotions and feelings you have chosen.
To increase the vitality, the ability to rejoice at each day, psychologists are offered to take a number of actions.
Drawing up instructions
It is best to achieve the intended goal to set out an ordered list of your desires on a sheet. Plan your actions. Each list item can be represented as a table. For example, the title of 4 columns may look like this:
- obstacles;
- what can help;
- necessary actions;
- Expected Result.
Filling columns is carried out individually to each person. You can conduct ordinary records of your errors and achievements in a blog or diary.
Cold for the best result
Configure yourself to positive. Do not fall into the despondency and do not lower your hands under any circumstances. You always need to believe in a favorable outcome of events. Damage any shacks with people: quarrels, conflicts, disputes. Look for a compromise solution in difficult situations.Rejoice in trifles, pay attention to pleasant moments. Release all negative feelings. Do not blame yourself for the mistakes performed. It is impossible to change the past. Take the situation and move forward. Use the past experience to improve the future life. Let him serve you a good lesson.
Unnecessary and bad habits
Anyone can come to listed their weaknesses. Someone is used to consuming inappropriate words in their speech, another - not to fulfill your own promises, lazy, nibble nails, very late to go to bed, overeat and the like. Any personality always exists from which it is worth getting rid of first.
Dear habits, such as smoking, drinking alcohol and narcotic drugs, lead a subject to spiritual and physical death. They contribute to the destruction of brain cells, deterioration of the work of internal organs and vessels. Only in case of complete abandonment of them, the body will be replenished with force and positive energy, and the quality of life will improve significantly. Negative dependencies should be replaced by good inclination.
Recipient your actions, include the desired habits in the personal plan of joyful changes.
Openness people
It is impossible to avoid communicating with your relatives, friends, colleagues and other people. They are able to support you in difficult moments, to encourage you to raise your breath with your presence. It is not necessary to share with all personal experiences and problems. Communicate more often with people. Just spend time with them, talk. The world from this will be saturated with new bright colors.An optimistic man attracts good people as a magnet. Review your environment. Vetics and pessimists brake the process of personality development. Get rid of yourself from communicating with envious, evil, sullen, forever dissatisfied or just unpleasant individuals. Take care of the environment positive, interesting and kind people.
Interests and Hobbies
Take a favorite thing. Someone likes to read, others - to play sports, study foreign languages, photograph, sing, dance, sew, knit, embroider, prepare different dishes, draw, decorate furniture or joinery. Pay more time to your hobbies. They eventually can bring you not only pleasure, but also income.
Any hobby can be turned into a bulk.
Tips for psychologist
Take people as they are. Do not attempt to change them and adjust yourself. Each person is unique. Enjoy the society of people. Contact them the way you would like to treat you.
Be disinterested personalities. Share with your lovely love, kindness, warmth and care. But to stop any attempts to take advantage of your good attitude, do not let anyone get into your neck. He will be able to refuse others to get rid of themselves from unnecessary and useless affairs. Do not take commitments that you cannot fulfill. Make sure to say "no."
Be a realist, do not compete with others. The achievement of the desired should depend on your needs, and not from the desire to prove something to someone. Put in front of you real goals, take into account your own skills and skills.
Do not gossip. Do not collect unreliable information from unverified sources. If you want to know something about a person, ask him directly. Do not listen to various conjectures and do not spread them themselves.
Do not condemn people . Try to understand their actions. If you do not agree with their opinion, offer them an alternative. Forgive yourself and others. These most you exempt yourself from stress, accumulated negative, in return to getting ease.
Hemete thank, And your life will be filled with harmony and pacification. Gratitude strengthens relationships with loved ones.
Thank you every day you live, beautiful sunset, beautiful weather, delicious dinner and much more.
Smile more often and laugh. A sincere smile removes your tension and pleases others. It fills in warm feelings of passersby, and their response positive reaction sends a counter-positive charge to your side. Find the time to watch the cinema and humorous gears. Perceive jokes and jokes with humor and understanding. Learn to laugh at them.
Make good and noble deeds . Carry the surrounding good. Show mercy to those in need. Do not pass by homeless animals. Cheer them. Suggest your assistance to people in a difficult situation. To give another is always more pleasant than to take. The creation of good deeds brings satisfaction to a person and significantly improves his life.
Do not chase material benefits. A huge number of things does not bring happiness. Take only the necessary products. Excess things give to charity. Do not depend on material values.
Do not show excessive activity. Any work must be alternating with rest. Forces and energy must be restored. Daily allocate time for peace and ponday. You should save yourself from extra fuss.
Do not justify your failures with circumstances or surrounding people. Do not complain about life, to the government, for parents. Stop yourself compared with others. Only the person himself can change his life for the better.
