People can hate enemies or those who are unpleasant. However, it happens that man begins to hate himself. It is very unnatural, nevertheless it happens. To relate to your "I" hostile, subject must have very good reasons for it. In no case can this problem be ignored, so we consider it in more detail.
Why does hatred arise?
The sluggish aggression, which the individual tries to hide from prying eyes, is called hatred. It seems that every person knows well what it is. Dislike can manifest itself both in relationships between people and with respect to any phenomenon.
And also happens like this: some subjects can hate themselves and their lives. Usually, teenagers suffer from such manifestations. The psychology of this age is such: a person belongs to his "I" with special demands. And if it does not suit him very much, for example, in his appearance, he can easily hate himself for it. Also in children of earlier age, the negative feelings that they cannot control are quite often arising. Therefore, adults must be treated carefully to the psyche of his child, without making mistakes in education. Otherwise, your child can expose autoagression. Consider the causes of this factor.
At an early age, the kids 2-4 years fall into hysterics because parents tell them the word "it is impossible." So, frequent prohibitions can cause such a manifestation. If parents relate to children without attention, often punish them, mock their actions, then such children may have a sense of alienation to their "I".
Parents often deal with their affairs and may not notice that their child needs care. The child thinks he does something wrong, and therefore dad and mom are not interested in his personality. As a result, the child begins to blame himself that he cannot cause love and attention to himself. As a result, he has hate to himself. When the baby becomes a teenager, his relationship with peers can go to a dead end. Then the rapid young psyche begins the search for the guilty of this situation.
The easiest way to blame in all the troubles of yourself. As a result, Samonamenavista arises. Adult individuals can also be subject to hate to themselves, and they can have different reasons for it. Consider them. A person can hate himself for committing an impartial act. For example, he hurt her friend very much, and friend began to despise him. As a result, the person who was wrong, realized the mistake and took up his senses.
Disposal in appearance Very often the reason for the occurrence of themselves. A man looks at his reflection in the mirror and understands that his appearance causes dislike. After that, the subject with an unstable psyche arises anger to his appearance. He begins to hate her more and more.
Important: You can not take alcohol as a sedative to eliminate the problems. If you do everything on the contrary, you can start social self-destruction. Alcoholic beverages contribute to strengthening the depressive state, and this is a direct path to the beginning and even to strengthening aggression.
Some subjects, mostly children or young people, sometimes understand that they did not meet the expectations of their parents. If parents also remind them of this, then such individuals begins hidden depression. Next will certainly be rejected. The rejection of his personality often cause rejected feelings towards another person. The situation may aggravate the evaporation in the form of ridicule and humiliation from the beloved person. Very often he is perceived as a certain idol, who does not have and cannot be flawed.
Then the rejected person starts to blame himself in the fact that he could not like his beloved person for any reason. This factor becomes a reason to raise yourself. Insufficient personal qualities can cause hate. If anyone suffers from its tanniff or excessive gulling, then he belongs to himself because of this hostile.
For example, The gullible person is constantly being disappointed due to the dishonestness of people. Every time he is hard to accumulate on an unfair attitude towards himself. Having weak features of character, he gradually begins to blame himself in facilitates. The result becomes the rejection of its "I".
Please note: if you continue not to pay attention to your negative condition or negative condition of a close relative, then the case can reach autoagression. In such a state, a person can consciously cause himself pain and injury.
How does it manifest?
"I" of a person includes temperament, personal features, tendensity, diving and much more. Neuroses contribute to the dullness of the above concepts, and therefore a person has hatred for himself. The subject begins to despise everything that in it is laid by nature. Then he comes out "on the trop of war" with his "I". And this leads to personal discrepancies. Often, a person does not even always realize that something is happening with him is something wrong. Instead of beating the alarm, he begins to be proud of the self-vacation and lack of egoistic traits.
However, the negative consequences of self-named people will not go anywhere, no matter how hard he tried. Consider this problem in more detail. In adolescents, hate attacks are expressed in the following: they start to want to die. It seems to them that only they can "be cleaned" from bad qualities. Teen at the same time forgets about self-preservation feeling.
Adults can from time to time to produce violent actions on anyone (with their loved ones, familiar or animals). Thus, hatred may be manifested for its "I", which affects the relationship.
Why it happens? Typically, these subjects once themselves were negative from the outside. Now they will be revenge for themselves. When a belligent adult or a child falls into dependence on such a subject, then subconsciously this subject projects violent actions for the sacrifice that were previously produced with it. This factor makes a man evil and prevents him from having sincerely love his loved ones.
If a person hates himself, he may have a unfulfilled dream, it can assume that "buried his talent in the ground" or wait for it to appear. If his expectations are not justified for a long time, then he belongs to himself hostile. The rejection of itself is expressed in the syndrome of the impostor and anxiety. Such a person is convinced that he will never be able to cope with a serious matter that he was entrusted. Because of this, his career suffers. As a result, the subject falls into depression and refers to its "I" more than hostile.
If a person launches his health and does not follow his beauty, he may suffer from self-named. So he is trying to "revenge yourself." For example: a woman (or a girl), which considers himself an unattractive special, can have an instance of femininity. Gradually, such a special will begin to wear trousers and adopt the style of male behavior. Dependence on someone can also indicate an evil attitude towards himself. As a result, man is looking for protection on the side all the time. So he feels a security.
For example, a woman believes that she will not be able to fully live without her husband, since she has no mind on it, no experience.
How to get rid of?
If there is deep hostility to yourself, then the person will be stumbled upon various obstacles all the time. Naturally, it is necessary to stop hating your inner world. Therefore, it is necessary to recognize the signs of the unconscious feeling of rejection of themselves and successfully overcome it. Tips of specialists will help to cope with such a task.
First of all, you must love your essence as it is. You just need to understand that there are no people who have no flaws. Why did you decide that your shortcomings are much worse than those you can watch from other people? Let us give an example. Imagine that the woman lives next door, who believes that he always goes correctly. She teaches other lives and all the time is shame. Is it not true, a familiar story?
Once, she also happens an unpleasant story that neighbors are involuntarily observed. And then the noble woman, surprisingly everyone shows his true face. To prove his right point, she screams and swears bad words. The person does not hesitate to others, behaves as you would personally have not allowed yourself. Then you unwittingly tell yourself that they shy the word to crumble into our defense, as it was believed that they had no moral right to it.
You can cope with the rejection of yourself if you stop blaming yourself in everything. Why did you decide that it is even to blame for the fact that sometimes "stones from the sky are falling"? Therefore, before accusing yourself to anything, always analyze your actions and look for me justification. Remember that a person sometimes simply cannot make an ideal act for certain circumstances. You are not comprehensive. And please all and immediately you can not.
Do not take anything without desire. Always and everywhere rely on your personal feelings. Intuition will save you from making mistakes, for which then you will be ashamed. Do not strive for perfection. This has not been able to anyone. A hostile attitude to his "I" is the result of a distorted look at his personal qualities. Therefore, stop treating yourself biased and do not chase perfect behavior or appearance. Take yourself such (oh), what (Aya) you are.
If you understand that you are hate to yourself, then try to figure out for such behavior. It is possible that some of the close people have humiliated you strongly, pointing to your negative character traits or ugly appearance. You certainly should think about this problem and eliminate it. If a close man was right, then start working on myself. Sign up for courses where experts will help you come out of a difficult situation. If you are constantly and unreasonably criticized by a loved one, then stop communicating with him at least for the time of rehabilitation. After your condition improves, forgive your offender.
We produce positive thinking. It will help you become more confident in your abilities. To begin with, you can order yourself to block all bad thoughts. Gradually, you will get used to do that. Take yourself by self. This will help you meditation or affirmations.
