To a certain extent, each of us needs to be detected. And thoughts about possible defeat, the unsuccessful outcome of any case cannot be attributed to pleasant. But there are people who Fear of failure makes it give up to business and undertakings in general . Such people are called athifobami.
What it is?
Atichifobia represents pathological irrational fear failure . The name of his mental disorder received from Latin Atyches - "Unfortunate" and Greek Φόβος - "Fear". This disorder is considered in the modern world one of the most common, but despite this, only a small part of the athifobov comes to psychotherapists and psychiatrists to obtain adequate treatment. The rest are familiar to what is happening.
In all situations where there is at least the slightest hint of competition as such People with athifobi see a close relationship with danger, they believe that they will definitely fail and experience their fiasco in advance.
As a result, in order not to survive him in reality, the athifob refuses to participate in this matter, and therefore the achievement of life success for it becomes an unrealistic goal.
The person is not confident in his power, knowledge, abilities, opportunities, and therefore inclined to depression and the emergence of heavier pathologies of the psyche. Atichifobia is considered a destructive phobic disorder. It is capable not only to the ground to destroy the life of a person in different aspects, but also impose irreparable harm to his health. Against the background of permanent expectation, the failure, many begin to drink alcohol, drugs, in order to even temporarily relax, stop thinking about the prospects for their own defeats and mourn the missed opportunities that the person did not decide to take advantage of the chance.
This phobia refers to the category of social. In childhood, we all wait for praise from parents for a beautiful drawing, a well done crawler, assessment at school. When we grow, the need for praise does not decrease, and in some moments of our life she can exacerbate.
If a person since childhood was difficult to seek praise (it was more often criticized), then with a large share of probability in adulthood he will have a fairly pronounced understated self-esteem.
It is she who underlies his fear not to become the best, to fail. A healthy person from Athihifoba distinguishes the skill of philosophically takes advantage of the defeat. People with such a mental disorder can not judge the situation of healthy, painfully experiencing even minor misses. One thought that the failure may repeat, causes the panic horror from Atichifoba, a terrible excitement, it is difficult for him to cope with these emotions.
Excitement before its possible (not yet happening) failure causes a person to diligently avoid any competition related competition situations - Additions to university, interviews in the device for work, participation in creative competitions and sports competitions, and even from the prospects to create close relationships with a loved one athhifob immediately refuses if the opponent appears on the horizon.
Varieties
Of all the types of phobic disorders of the psyche, the athifobia has the largest forms in which it can occur, That is why true athihifoba is so difficult to recognize.
- Sustain and self-insulation - With such a form of athihifob, it refuses to participate in any events that the competition implies (does not come to the interview, refuses to participate in a variety of events and projects, any, even minimal possible obstacles to the goal of achieving the goal are irresistible).
- Samosabotage - The fear of failure has the form of persistent conviction, the confidence that everything will end badly. From participation in the events of the patient does not refuse, but trying to do everything at the subconscious level so as not to achieve a positive result.
Then he says that "I knew." Assignments that such ashphyphyms are usually carried out for a very long time, diligently they are delayed, A person comes to the absurdity and begins to demonstrate signs of incompetence.
- Immobilization - In this form, the athifobia is accepted by patients like a character trait. He does not fight, does not seek to overcome his insecurity, it is inactive and answers all questions from the outside: "Yes, I am." These patients tend to close themselves, they do not develop, do not grow in a professional and personal plan.
They themselves say that they do not have the abilities and were the last in line when God distributed talents, and they did not have enough.
- Perfectionism - A person really wants to be the best, but it is afraid to fail, and therefore is forced to take a lot of effort to prevent even theoretically no erroneous or rapid action. The desire to be the best becomes an intrusive idea. Any business for which such an athifob is taken, turns into stress Since all the forces he throws to ensure that everything has been done "to the comma." True, with this form of phobic disorder, the patient never takes about the work from the sphere, he is unfamiliar, limited to some one, the main area of activity.
For example, a successful programmer with perfectionism is taken for the most complicated professional tasks, but cannot force themselves to overcome the fear and take part in the "fun starts" at school with his own child. Or for a woman - a teacher of literature completely unacceptable, it seems the thought to go with students at the weekend in a campaign, as it is just afraid of being ridiculous.
All types of athihifobia are peculiar Impaired self-esteem and high self-criticism.
Causes of occurrence
Psychology and psychiatry give the reasons for the development of fear of defeats a special meaning. Considering how this phobia is widespread, it is necessary to develop the most effective methods of assistance. Specialists tend to believe that Calling athifobia can various reasons, among which the leading place occupies a personal negative experience.
The experience of experienced failures can be especially painful and traumatic for a person if he has a tendency to generalize. In this case, for some single story or a situation, a person begins to judge the phenomenon or event as a whole. So, who rubbed once, the victims of failure, a person concludes that he cannot do anything worthwhile that his abilities are not great enough that he lacks knowledge and ability and, in general, he is a loser. This conviction launches a series of negative reactions, the desire to do something or achieve something almost to the root is blocked.
Most often, according to the observations of specialists, the athifobia develops against the background of insecurity in its forces, which is formed by many in childhood or adolescence.
First of all, parents can affect low self-esteem, more precisely, their Attitude towards misses and baby failures . If in the family it is customary to demand that the child be the best at school, sports, music school and drawing studio, so that at the same time the child had the best estimates in the classroom, the child remains in constant voltage - it's not easy everywhere.
If, even in the family, even successes are perceived as something of granted, by virtue of what encouragement is not, a child has a distorted idea of its own achievements. For misses, perfectionists can scold much and even punish, and it immediately affects the perception of themselves as incapable of achieving success.
Among the athifobov a lot of those who laughed in the team in the team.
And it is not at all that the reason for the ridicule was actions and actions, sometimes ridicule personal qualities, character traits. This often happens in the teams of kindergartens, at school, on sections and even at the first courses of higher educational institutions. At any moment against the background of a strong dissatisfaction with the victim of mockery, fear of failures may develop.
More fear are subject to Except people, denunciation, inclined to anxiety.
Symptoms
Athihifa is enough to find out among other people. It is always anxious, greatly worried about important events. If something to do something, agree to something, to fulfill some responsible work, in addition to anxiety, the athifob is experiencing a whole complex of vegetative symptoms. He has a heart matter, an unpleasant feeling in his stomach appears, the skin becomes more pale, sweating can increase.
In the state of fear, the athihifobov often trembling their hands, pupils are expanding, the pulse becomes frequent, breathing - superficial. Many noted that there are gulling pain in the heart. Some sharply become nervous, fussy, irritable, and others, on the contrary, flow into the state of the stupor.
With fear of failure, diarrhea, nausea, insomnia are quite common symptoms.
For example, before an important exam or an interview of the patient, sleep can lose his sleep, he cannot get rid of obsessive thought, scrolling in the head possible scenarios of the upcoming case in negative light, diarrhea and nausea develop. From the usual excitement before an important event, which is characteristic of all people, the attack of athifobia is different in the first place that all manifestations are present on the verge of panic attack, and the panic attacks themselves are possible.
At the same time, a person understands that There is no reason to worry yet, because nothing terrible happened, perhaps everything will be fine, but he cannot cope with horror, the manifestations of athifobia are not amenable to volitional exposure and control.
How to get rid of phobia?
With this phobia, it is very important to consult a doctor, since it is almost impossible to overcome this form of social pathological fear. To seek help is a big step towards overcoming fear. Psychotherapist or Psychiatrist begin treatment With the establishment of "Children's Anamnesis" - Interview the patient about his childhood, education, about what and in what situations it was punished, as a human relationship was built with classmates, classmates, representatives of the opposite sex. It helps find the root causes of low self-esteem.
The doctor will establish how his patient himself refers to his failures and misses, as things are concluded with the presence of motivation to achieve success.
This will help special tests, as well as hypnotherapy, if a person cannot recall the events from childhood, which may have affected the development of phobic disorder.
Among the methods of psychotherapeutic treatment, special efficiency has Method of modeling situations. The doctor creates a description of the situations that ended for a patient with a complete failure. The task of the patient is to describe all the nuances of the sensations and the feelings, which he experienced in the process of defeat and after him. The treatment is based on sincerity - if it is not, then to overcome the phobia, it will be very difficult to remove its manifestations.
Useful classes in groups, as communication with the same people who fear to fail, Helps a person in a relaxed atmosphere to look at his own problem from the side.
In the group, it feels support from other participants in classes and this is very important for him.
Medicines to fight athifobia does not exist. But the doctor can recommend at personal discretion antidepressants If it is noted that the patient has depressive moods and sleeping pills in sleep violation.
During therapy in patients It is recommended to avoid stress, alcohol, narcotic drugs. They are invited to learn more about the biography of successful people. Usually their victories were the results of a set of failures that became the basis of such a valuable and important experience for victory.
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